Articles Book III - Pg 300-560 (Birthparents) - triadoption

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**THE DENVER POST Sun.. Much 7.1976 13
Wllhoul lhc pcr~nlssion; Incli~dlng lhc fnrl
llrnl hho war iIi~#ilintitlc nnd lhal her
nlolllcr wns now n ICHC~C~
niartltd lo n
physlclnt~.
"It wns lhc lirsl l hcilrd I wad lllcglil,
male. 1 musl say ll fcll good. I had such
a fccling of rcjcdlon nll tltcsc ycnrs. I
knew 1 wes Just a.bnby, nnd it wnsn'l rcnlly
~rcc'lhcy wcrc rcjccllttg. Bul I know
how I fccl aboul my chlldrcn. nnd (here's
, jusl no \vuy I would glvc lltc~n up." ,
hlrs. Armslrong snitl she wcnl home
Imntedlnlcly nnd callcd her pnrcnls.
"hly mollicr wns vcry caretul lo say,
'Ilave you thougltl lhls nll over? Are you
rllrc yo11 mn handlc It?' I mid, 'Ycs, I'm .
bl~rc.' And Otcy sl~ocvcd~tnc Wlh tho let
11-r!."
dcall~,",hc nddcd, when sllc lold him she
had jmlncd Scnrch.
"SJJO looks rnough llkc hcr molhcr.
'And, ~vcll, iltcy'rc holh pcrccpllve
c~~ougb. 1 tltot~gh~, bell. Lhcy're gqing lo
ntecl nl n Srarch n~ccllng."
By Ihnt IImc, hlrs, Armslrong wns seclhing
wlfh Ittipn(lcnco ns sltc wailrd more
lhan hro wccks lor hcr pnrcnts' ~tllorncy
lo wrilc o pcr~iilsslon lellcr lo Joos hcr
I)arcnls mllborl~cd.
SCHI.I!~I IICIII nttolhc~' niccllng In lnlc
Fitbrutlry. hlrfi, Arntslrong wcnl, hlrs.
\Vhllo ~tl~tiosl \vcnl bl dccidcd against il
nl lhc 1:tsl mlnull*. noring 11 collcc hrcnk,
I s ArlnsLrssg I)cRntt tliscussl~~fi lllc
~t~nl:rrss of ltcr sci~rch, nnd lncnllt~tlrd
Ihr nclv fi~cls hlro lto\v ltorl - tltnl her
ntolllrr crns n Ic:tclte~*. nt:lrricd lo a
phgsiclnn, will1 Iwo cltlld~~cn.
'I \vom;llt slto war lalkittfi lo
"drnpl~~*~l l~cr ];I\\#" nnll snid, "hly (;lbd. I
knt~w wltn your IIIIIIIIP~ IS," uttd IICW In
Ihts II*II~~IIIIJIII* -. whlln hlrs. Art~isIrot~fl
w~~llrtl, alle si1It1. "ill 81 slillc ol sltuvk."
, Sla, loo, llkc hlrs. \Vhilc, had vlslotls of
havllli: her ltnlr d6ne nnrl lookln~ her lical
nl (Itis lcnpnu-nitcd mcctlng. I!tslcntl. "I
wns shaking as thnu:h I crctc Ircezit~fi."
bnd so white attd "lwkl~!;! 50 n~vlul, pcople
kcpt asking If I didn't \c;?nt a drink or
~omc~i~l~tg:'
Iloth aomcn nolcd lhal lhcy had h*cn
wcll xnrnd. bv Search ntcn:bcrs rind
lhelr cxperiencc~, lo caprcl l!e nol.sI -
a lerrlble dlrnppl~ttmenl, n cold mcrling,
ntnybc cven complcte rejection.
"I nlrra!s thought of thc nrgnli\c
: things Iirsl - lhal 1 mlgl~l mccl lhls llerson
and Ihlttk. ]uckl
"Pcoplc prcpnrcd me. Ion." raid Mrr.
h ... .. . T -. a rr~t~rnibr, 11,1s tlllld
rnlnl~l no1 b@ nll ?uu illrll~lpnl~.
'l~00l~ 1~r;Ll.IsG'
"Yel frotn llte very tnntnrnl . it l~rlv
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111 III).II 11114 tlll~~v r:lov 11111 81 I.* 11'11. 11#"1
H.,O Y,II~I,~II 110 1-1 lu,,tlt(.~ $11 11111111 be
el~clt wtsrc nlrttid we ctuttld critrc Uln
olhrr Irlxtll dl."
AN Ill? 11\11 \\tlltlcn r:~l ftcor r:~t,h (IIIIVI,
IIIC rcscn~blnncc dark halr. dark cycs,
lealurc~. hclghl - was slaggcrlnc evcn down lo a unlqur falnlly lrnil -
cr~ch of lhem 1s mlssing two of hcr lop
lronl lcclh,
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I7ar n!l lliclr years itlid mot~lh~ of Inipa.
Ilcr~cc, 110th itorncn agreed lhal the timing.
In the cnd. \\as beit. I I Iitnc
both anlttcn rtcrc lu!l) co~n~n!:lr.d lo the
mccllng. and slllwu~l~ llrs, Ar1119Irong
snld ltcr pnrcnls sllll can't fu!l!' ncccpl il,
Iltcy tiid II~ lcnst rceo~~cllc lhcmuclv~s lo
llrc nirclin~. volucloril~ sl~o\r hcr !he lel.
lcrs and glvc lhclr perniirsion.
Mrs. \\'hllc rald that the nigh1 of lI;!lr
nicclln~ shc Iwkcd toj) ihf! jn.ssnj!e IJI llto
Ilible IIIJOIII ... n litns to plant. ;: limc lo
sox. n l1111c lo bc horn, n limc lo [lie. I
slngcd 1111 lo read I1 . 1 bad bcrn ~cl.
liltc XI int~)allcnI . . . God docs sct a
selik~lulr." '
As lor the r~tull~~.r's nrc~nmlllo~l Illat
ltrr rl~~~t~ltlcr was \villhn shuttlin?, tlis-
I~lncc'!
hlrr, Ar~ttslronl: raid. "I Ilvnl in
I)r~lv~r Inutl ol nly lilc )as1 o few hlocks
. from hcr-slnce I wns 4."
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