Articles Book III - Pg 300-560 (Birthparents) - triadoption

hod to ask permission for me to pick him up. Sho roolly hod somo
strongo power over me. I remember whon I wont to the Court to
sign the surrondor popors, I allowed her to dlssuode me from taking
fino1 pictures of him and saying goodbye to him.
I suffored for 11 yoors, wondering every time e boy his age
got hurt or killed. I knew I hod to find out his edoptod name. Thon
I sow him and sow for mysolf thet ho woo olive ond well end hoppy.
I learned also thet he is on only child and this bothers me for his
fotherond I havo throe other children who ore his complete siblings
and I feel very strongly thoy tvould bonofit by knowing eoch other."
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FROM A RESEARCH TEAM
"Adoption agencies should address themselves to the
following: A recognition that many birthperents, particularly
birthmothcrs, have not resolved their feelings about
relinquishing for adoption a child whom they have b.een
told they can never see again. Many mey have a life-long
unfulfilled need for further information and in some cases
for o contact with the relinquished child . . ."
- Pennor, Sorosky, Beron, "Oponing the Seoiod Record
in Adoption-The Human Need for Continuity",
JOURNAL OF JEWISH COMMUNAL SERVICE,
Winter 1974,
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Vol. II,
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No.
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2.
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JANE, 30, AN ADOPTEE, GAVE BIRTH TO A DAUGHTER IN
OCTOBER, 1966 AND SURRENDERED HER CHILD ONE MONTH
LATER.
"Though I didn't ot first, I leter found that I loved being prognont
but I had snxloties knowing the end rosuit which would bo
surrender. My parents reocted with totei rejection. My peers were
very supportive. I never told the fothor. I was confined in a woge
home under the suspices of the Florence Crlttonton Hastings
House.
If I did receive eny counselling st tho Crit, or through tho
Boston Children's Aid Society, I don't remember it. I doofonod
mysolf e greet deal.
I now know whore Heather is and I live with tho hope that we
will be togethor in eight more years. Moonlvhilo, I find that tho
pain is still unenduroble if I allow myself to think sbout It often,"
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FAMILY INVOLVEMENT