Articles Book III - Pg 300-560 (Birthparents) - triadoption
Articles Book III - Pg 300-560 (Birthparents) - triadoption
Articles Book III - Pg 300-560 (Birthparents) - triadoption
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wonicn's Wcws Society Stylc Family<br />
v of Losing a Child<br />
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By CEORGl! II. GRIFFIN rrrn~hrlhcr rho war 11111 allre, hrvc<br />
Tclrf,rarn hllltord Burr10 chanacd her mllld.<br />
"In my cnunsclln~lhrre wnsnodlr.<br />
hlll.~XlRb - Gayle Ilrnrscn prvc curslon.of how lo rope with lhcrc<br />
up hcr daughlcr for adopllon 10 yerra fccllnga," hlrr. IIrnlscn rald. "It war<br />
qo.<br />
mII plolrcd over. The law prorldts<br />
Al the ilmo rhe thoughl It wag the that we can ncvrr know what hap .<br />
T1arouglh rfght thlngto do. Shr was an unnlar. wncd lo our chlld. l~torlurc not<br />
rlrd collc((c rludcnl. me caunlellng knowlnn. 11'1 a punlshntmt un~ulbd<br />
she rrcclvrd. the alllludc of the adnp lolhrcrl~nc."<br />
Adoption tl~n~ncy,~d~~oltherhll~r Mrs. llr.n~~on'a conccrn~ a t hc,<br />
lalhrr lo rcmaln monymnum, her da~~ul~lcr led her In loln the Con.<br />
jiulll Icd her to bcllcvc rdopllon was ccrncd Utlltcd Dlrlhprrcnts. Inc., a<br />
lhe bell legacy she could leave her non~prnfll corporallan fnundrd lo hclp<br />
, a dauphlcr. I parcnlr who have rurrcndcrrd lhclr<br />
Dul years of no1 knowln~ whclher chlldrcntormdopllon.<br />
hre daughlrr was bclnu well.lrralcd Thc corporallan was prulnl~ed In<br />
or no~, whether rha had a<br />
.. cwd home. Turn IOAE'IE~ GIVING ~a.,rn<br />
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~onflnurdfm~ Pagef~ ."It cmn also glve you problrmr In record Is scalcd. A new. blrlh cerlln ;'<br />
trurllnf, men." she mnllnuc$. "I gave tale, llstlng lhcnamn ofthe adupllng p<br />
Oclober, 1918, and now has chaplcrr up my child 10 yerrr ego. hly dauph. parcnls 81 the parents, Is fllcd. Asm<br />
acmsr the counln.me mddres, ol llr s trr Xrlrlrn L.8 now. The flnl llme clca mlto ollm,won'l glvc the blrlh.' 1<br />
na(lonal hcadpuarlcra Is P.O. Box she war *pay from me war lo slay ~parcnlrcoplcsoflhqadopllonpapen.<br />
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st,, ~llfotd. &IN. Ilansarn 11 the ovcrnlghl wllh my prrrnls. I was re. "We also want lo make ouraclver<br />
corporallon'aiecrcIIry. '<br />
luclanl lo lel her ally ovemlghl. 1 avallmblc to. pregnant, unmrrtird<br />
rrlcd all the way home lnlhe car. womrn;'shcrnld:"Wewanllomrke 11<br />
cell: supporl<br />
Part 01 me war 1aylnR.'I'11 never an known lo lhrm lhal wi.,havc shard<br />
hcragrln."! . , ,<br />
"Our flrsl((orl la toprnvldcs~~pporl<br />
for 'blrlhparcnlr; BIgBoslnesr . lhcy arcgolng through. I<br />
" hln. Ilanssrn 1n1 .<br />
rrld. "We have parllculrr problems hln. tlansscn srld unwed molhcra The llnal lhlng we arc dolng Is in<br />
lhal we all la*. Soclal workera lcll are subJectrd to lnlense pressure lo our publlc.cducallon role." Mrs. PI \I<br />
you that Or Idea Is you are no1 aup glve up lhelr chlldren tor adnpllun, llanarcn contlnucd.~'Nlncly~Nur per.<br />
pored lo lhlnk mboul the adopllon or even If lhcy 8.1 they wan1 lo kccp vccnlof blrlhprrmb wan1 to be tound.<br />
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. . . lhclr cipcrlrnce and we know 7h.L I 1<br />
. fcrl the loss of your chlld, Dul we lhelrbablcs. ;. . . Wo are no1 a rcarch aucncy, bul ws ,<br />
know you can ?ever forget about a<br />
.'One faclar lrihat adopllonlr a blb ' can rvfcr aommne who is looking for '<br />
chlld. . . monrymaklng burlncrr." rbc sald, 1111 ur her bklhps~nl<br />
"Secondly, we play m rdvocicy "When an rpcnq placcs a chlld. It acarrhagmcy. . I :<br />
or chlld<br />
rolc to asrlst blrlhparentr In lhclr gclr a fr.r:Some agcnclcr grl blg<br />
.i,,,C,re here We ,but<br />
dcallngl vlB adopllon m#rnclrs." tccl. When an agency helps l molhcr (he wclf,re of our rhlldrcn. \YC rant<br />
hln. Ilanssm aald the alllludo ot kccp a child. IIgclrno fec.<br />
lo know our chlldren evrnlually. \Vc<br />
~oclcly and faus of adopllon laws cr.. "We know of a woman In Washlng to bc lo cIpliln we did<br />
cludc blrlhparcnlr lmm the llrer of toll. D. C. who cat golnn lo arrmge<br />
lr lorlhcm."<br />
. lhelr chlldr~ once lhe ~dopllon Pa. for mn open adopllon.'.Thal Is, she<br />
pcrs ~rerl~td.Orlglnal blrlh ccriln. would have mn opporlunlly lo mccl<br />
calcr am realcd. Adopllon agcncler lhefamlly betorr the actual rdopllon.<br />
gcncrrll~ nfuse lo any where the. She had lhlr arranged lhmugh m<br />
chlld har b m placcd. 0tlcn:adopllon ,.church i8crley.<br />
agmcln do not kccpbmck bfehlldrcn .: !-Bui,anolher rgrncy told hcr lhlr<br />
;.:?;: ha~;?:,:,$~,?, *he ; was absolutcl~ illcgrl. 7hcy prea.<br />
I: surd .her .to place &he :*Ud :?llh<br />
worken are a pmduct of them. . . _.. . ., .,. . .. ,<br />
.'~ac~al<br />
thrlr ,balnlnf, and cducmllon:' Uln. ~lhc lnformatlon i.e were (~lvcn la<br />
Ilmnssen rald. !?cy IIU~Y bmlu on lhrl Le agency lhrt.arrangcd lhc<br />
how to counacl unwrd molhen. Bul' open adopllon wma golng lobe glven a<br />
IQc bwlu urn no1 wrlllm by anwed . $200 10 Stw in. Th?,closcd.mgcncy<br />
mothen.methcoq 11 wrong." wa~polngtof,t112,1w..~ -':;' : '<br />
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. 'Ihc two ancnclo wcrc fym lhc<br />
' P1ycbo~o~c~~hohbmr , , ramechurch.nlalrd organlzallon bul<br />
rcrc In d!tfrrcnl dloccrca:Many ol us<br />
Mrs. lhns'cn raid Ihs lack of rclc- .frcI that romellma adobllon la Jusl<br />
van1 munlcllng. the mfuaml of adop ,cg.lkd:eh(ld ,elllnp..ll~,~b~g burl.<br />
. lion wmclcs lo Pmvldc 1nform.llon .nrss. Ilo, man, ,dQpllona<br />
m,lly<br />
. on the weltarr of the mdoplrd chlld unn-?,nl,: :$. , ,<br />
and anrleUrr cr~~rcd by fcellnps of ,:::,. ,<br />
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gull1 artcn lrrd (o prychologlc~lpmb . . A Rlgbl la Rand:. '.<br />
. 'ern of lhe Cm6crncd Unllcd Dlrih.<br />
lrms for lhc blrthpmrrnl.<br />
parenti' philosophy 1% that every par.<br />
hbr. 'lannrrn Ir marrlcd and now<br />
en1 ihou~d hmre a lo knqy ~l.1<br />
has lwomoredaughlrn.<br />
hla or hcr chlld L, well. ParrnU who<br />
"You've losl r chlld." she amld. In lo nnd out bow lhclr chlldrrn arc<br />
"You devdcp a fear of loslng your orfen are refused <strong>III</strong>C lnlo+aUon,<br />
olhcr chlldrm. We hmve problrmr Llrr. llanrsrnrmld. ' . . i<br />
aboul how we ice1 almul oursrlvrl. "We.rupparl lrglrlrllon for'opcn<br />
You Ice your other chlldrcndlllennb rccordr:' hln, l3mrstn rdd. "We<br />
Iy, Im. You nrvrr,knm when you uanl lo @ able In gel coplra of blrlh .<br />
glvcup r rhlld for adopllon how II wlll crrtlllralcr. 11 dlgnlner the conlrlbu.<br />
altul your rclrllonrl~lps wllh your llon re make lo lhcrc chlldrrn. Once ,<br />
.: olhcrchlldrcnoryourhuaband. .. 'a chlld ir adoplrd, hL orlplnal birth<br />
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