Articles Book III - Pg 300-560 (Birthparents) - triadoption

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EDITOR'S NOTE: \\'hen an atloplcd chlld
decldes lo scek 111s or her ttnlurnl pnrcnls, lllrrc
1s an uncertainty ns to what the rcnclion will he 'A mother, to me, is the
pnrenls.
when n womnn seeks the thlld mother ~110 takes responsi-
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..... . .nut lherc Is llltlc rTnu~rt whnt eflcct lhc bilify, ~110 would figltt to
... nppenrance of n nnlllrnl nlotller wottld hnve
. !, on the parcnlswho ntlnplcd lhnl CIIII~. keep her child, and sure
wouldn't* siue it a(uay4'
,:. I -bolll lor llle child and lor the nnlt~rnl
1 ! The snmc is lrt~c
I. she surrendcrcd lor ntlo llon.
:. . Todny, In the Ioarlh pnrl ol n scries, FOCIIS 1
. .. reporter Norma noth rccotmta (11e rcncllons
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..,,! of a call lc wllh an ndopte~l child lo IIlc
... - An ndoptlvc nlolhcr
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tgsl a nnlarol mothcr mlght eotnc
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. looklag lor their chlld. .
, me! The guy sold, 'Jusl n rnin~llc.' on11 wbcn hc mer
-. . . b b m bock on Ibc phone, llc sold. 'llnw would yo11 Ilks lo hr
Ihc molhcr ol n baby plrl?' "
' ' The adOpllng Parcnls makc llllrd sldc 01 Ih' 'lWe pol her a1 Do'clockil~e ncxl nrorning," shc snlll
I ado lion triangle. "The ntlnule they walk In ll~c raorn ~ vill~ lhnl baby
hLrk Susan not llleir lhcrc's ~~olhing clsc that mnllrrs:' snlll ,!lark.
arc such pnrenls. They hn1.e two sot~nl: cbildrcn. On) ~l~~ ndoplil pnrcn(s sclcc( lloby.s ,(I.
of lLcm Is adopled. In join ntly croul nflcr slx nlonl k 13,
would work lo Insure kccplng adapllul
lhc birth tcrlilirnlc is cl~nngcd wllll
lhc cl~lld's new nnnlc and lhc nnrnc 01 llrc adoplilrg
records sealed.
porcnts In lhc plncc of ihc nnlernl pnrrnls.
"Wc have very slrong fccllngs agnlnst it." Susal wny, 1tss our cllild... suSns
snld.
. .. . . . "The way I looked nl I!. If $ou'rc gclllrrg n ncwbnrtr.
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ray lo ourdaughlc lhc only ivny Ore child's molhcr is n ~noll~cr is la Il,r
. :.; , look lor hcr nnlurnl molhcr wo~rl~l he If sllc hnl term gmo(hcr. 11'~ tlscrl I, our soelrlg. Cal.c.
,, . , . somclhln physlcnlly tvrong with her lhnl tvns l~crcdl blrlll lo [he bally,- hlPrk mill.
. . lory or I!I bccnn~c such n menlnl erirls I11cre wns nl susnn ,ddcl, ,.A lllolllcr, is nrn(hrr lvh,,
allctnnllve." she snld.
.. .. lnkrs rcspnnslltlllly. who \vnuld liehl In kcrl~ hrr chil~l.
.. "Il the day cnmc when (hat hccamc nn lss~tc I ,d ,,,., 61vc ll a\vay, .rllcrc.s ,var. Al!
wodd lcar me apnrt inside, bul I would go nlong nnd
wotl~l~ ,,,, mc,
would haw I was strong cnollgh not (0 show her llov "T)lrrc nrc grcfil spntls lltnc \vllrll ~0
, . much I hurl."
lor!ct sl1e.s
adoplcd. A1 one ll~nc. 1 ttr~rldn'l use Iltc yrtrrl. btrl on,.
Both Lundslroms vehcrnenlly opp~scd opcnlnl dny I sold. ,WE 11avc 10 tell her; SO \,I. rat l~cr cloun 111:
ado tion records.
thc snln anti lctld hcr. llcr ln~ntr~lI;~lc rcspotlre tva%
"FL's like p~aylng ~arncs wllh lhc haby." Susn~~ sald -con 1 go bock otlll ,vnlrll T", no,v?. -
' " ' "I cnn't i~nnglnc a yoclng co~rple n.110 cnn'l I18t.c 5lnrk said, w~llc did .,vho tnolller!* I
thlldrcn who dcspcralrly wnnl them, who wnll nnr
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wnll and pay lllc unwdly nnloltlll of lllonrv I( custs what 11 na(llral lllothcr cnlled and ~drtll~firl:
, who nnswcr n thousnnd qucslions, rind slll~ never 111
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ccrlaln Ole child lhcy adopl will rcally ltc ll~cre.
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"I'd slnrl irrnrbllng all over nnll 1'11 hnpe I'd civ~r
As hrrnlnc hlcCurdy rccnllcd lhc jrjln of givin~ 111
nrny lnVc lllnl shc.cl slill rl;,!. lvllh 1.d I:.:
I " Susan i*ua'lstrom rccallcd Win no llrc wol~rnn. 'Tlrcre's 1111 way lhnl cl~il~l 1vo1111l rvcr 11,
bclng able to hnve n Irnl>g.
.' . "You go lhrosg11 lhc yrors whrn ynll try lo irnve n yollrs llPr.l ..sllsall dcspllc salll, the fnct Ihal you gave lrlrlh 1,
baby. You gu lo ll~c doelnr cvrr? rnnrllh. YOU hart
lcsls nnd keep lcln~=rnlllrc cllnrls ?lid hnvc smlr rerorlls
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lubes blown, otllY lo flc told You ulll I1cvcr Ilnvc
cllildrcll lllldcr 18, hlnrk .mlli, -jllsl ll~rnurc lllry.!
rhlldrcn.
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18. IIOLV' many are crnnlloaolly tnnlurc cr.ough I
"hlaybc gnu llnd ool whnl's wron nnd nrn!hr ?or ~lnnl~lc
s,ICI~I~I! ilkc 11131?~
dnn'l. YOU want lnR~vcyoer ~les~,anrFr~rildrcn~'~~n~~~t 0 ~ llavr 1 ~l,u ~ ,lllrrll ~ eolc rvllll lol~a)., ~llr.\.dall
.. Ihc prohlcm is wllll lllc Illlsbond. but lllcn wc'r~ told 11 nrcll lo llnvc lilnl nllllrl~ hrlrdcn rill
wc rvut~t klds wc rill here lo n~lo~tt.
Illel, lllill,~s.
t~linlllc Il~c). k1111w ll~cy'rc 18. and I;IIII~ lhc lruuks ill
"Ever J I ~ Y kllu\vs YOU CPII'I have chlldrt-n. II'~ nllrn lllry.rc
hen~lllnl!&." shc snid.
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"Es~trcinlly 111 l~otncs whcrc Ihrre hnan'l bccn 3.
011rc n couplc ~lccidcs lo ndnpl a bnby lhrrc arc IIIC
qllcsllons by lflc ilgcllrs, (Ilc inlrrricws rind -tvnrs1111 r lcil ~l,lrll,loll,~.
llrr ~ltls~tnll,~ ,,,lIll,~, cshlayl,Q lly l~ltlc ttl,.y.,r;
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"\Ye wnilrd 11; ~tr~~nllla lor a child.':
liruy'rr n ~al~~ri~ ~III)IICII lo ir;~n~l!c 11. ily Ilrcn. ll~rg'!,
S U S said. ~ rcn,.~ll~li
1111, nllti ~llvcl~ in l~~~lrrl,ll~ ,vilys,
"Y~II rouldt~'l b~~llrvc thc c~~~oll~ianl nposy ?nit $11
..Unlll chilli rllnrrlrd; ilc.s k,lo,Vn ntlc
III~OIICII. wailln~. You \rail cvcry day, nnd r,vrly tlily "1 ,
lhc cclae gels n lillle closer.
"I'd cnll lhr nccncy crcry wrck on11 ~ clllc l salnr
nttsrvcr. noon I collcd Thcrc an11 IV;IS
snld. no 'Yna'vc balry lur latl nlc. In l'llr~~
hnvc crlrr nllrr.
11 I~nby lor TIIIII1Sl)AY IN FOCUS: Tllr nfic~tcics.
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