Articles Book III - Pg 300-560 (Birthparents) - triadoption

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YE NEW Y RK TIMES, ~ONDA? JANUARY
25.1478
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~atural Parents Form Groups
To Emphasize Their Concerns
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. Adoption Seminar
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A scilnnr entllled 'The Adop
tlon Clrcla" wlll be conducted by
I nellv Jean Uflon. aulhor of I
. 7he iddrna of iha organlzalion's
ndblonal headquarlcrs Is
P.O. Dox 573, Mllford. Mas.
01757.
To contact the Pcnnsylvanh-
South Jersey branch wrlte lo BOX
08108.
. 1056, Machantvllle, h.~.
lhlnu lhlnn the ado~live Dwenb .rs
dolG, she-can't do dnytfiltg ~tmt it"
Re resmtallvw of various segments
nt tR8 ndontlan mmmudtv - ths
children. he American Admy of ber of hcr branch and one of tho fsw
suricndcml nt a tlmc whcn 41 war sllll ~edfatrlcs Adopllon and "e,eident men In CUB. 'l'vo notten sn mu&
obJcctlonablo to sub)txt a' chlld to a' Care Cmmlttee. lho Ncw Yor State support from 'the womcn in,,m - group;
lifctlmc of bastnrdy.
Ad tlve PmnU Commltlw and lho lhc ire bcnutlful pcople, la sald
Dccnusa Concerned United Blrth- NO$ American Councll on Adoplsbls dm though 110 conccdcs tho bud&
wts is so new - tho New Yorkl Cl~lldren-sald they supported some of fdls morn llcavllv on -
R"" orlhcm Ncw Jcrscy branch met for the CUD members' proposals but vehethe
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molhcrs. --. Mr. ~ - -~. Dl -- ~ ~ ~
'~ulssenoe. a eriillncc suocrvlsor. said
It has nnt
~~ ~~ .~~~ mently oppored olhcrr, espcclally thoso ha doci.not bfllcve fin1 unwed filllers
yet formuloled n pollcy on its primary Illat would nmme dlreoL conhcl be- mer c mlotlonally unscathed.
, apcn ndopllon. Ofllccrs sold lhcy tween blolinlcal Daren1 and mlnor
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14e C~IM in my llle - a dnuglltcr
nlcndcd to dctcrmlne thnt pollcy by child. - was born 12 mars ano!' he sald.
n~ldycnr and submlt It lo q@ades,~psy. ' Dr. Donald'Lowls, a Scattla pedlahl. "I wasn't In lovd wllh ifto n&hcr.l
chlnlrlsls and counsclors.
clan and chalrman of ll~a Acsdmy of 'had Just had a broknl cnge cmenl ind
Pedlalrics AdooUon and Denendent had glvcn up a buslners and thcre tt~,r
Care C ~ i l l c snld. ~ , "~onlde'nllfyln~ no conslderallon on mv mrt of msnv.
Inlonnallon should be avallabla and in Inn lrer. When slia s~6kg lo me abijr
most good agenclcs, it b. Dul In order rdbpllon. I thou 1.1 would llke io
to grant ldcntlfylng Infamallon, dl ralso the kid, wit P I my moll~cr or slslcr
bloloplcal parent may have a need lo helnlnn. But sha dldn'l anree."
know about the chlld, but whclha thcy AIKounh he &Id ha Thellcves that
hava the right depends on lhe dlec~
adopllon-was In his daughler's best
It would hava on the oarties Involved. Interest. Mr. Dl Gulrcppe aald ha cwld
nlera should ba no dliect relallonshln: not help fecllng lhal glv111 hor up was
her own adopled .chll&en acek lhdr
biological parents whcn lhey much the
a c of mn orlly, But she obJ~lcd lo
'vfsilnllon r 1 chts hlore thnt lime.
"The adopilvc family Is a total famlly
wllltout lncludln the blologlcal parenl."
she sold. s'ff a woman wants to
vlslt her chlld, she has no business
placing lhat chlld. Elther ou'ru a
parent or you're not. It's n final klnd
of declslon; there's no changlng your
mlnd in lhc mlddle!'
CUB members stressed that the had
no dalra to reenla thclr chlliren's
Ilvr.
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"Our purpose Is not to take our
children away," nolnl hla Ewlns,
coordinator of the New YO^ branch
and a rcglrlcrcd nursa at htout~i Slnii
llospltal who gava blrth to a son IR
years ago, when 111s war 2.3 years old.
'Tho adopllva parenls hnva parcntnl
hlm. taken corn of hlm whcn ho was
ddi, sent hlm to school. ahnred thc
joys of hls cl~lldhaod, loved hlm. I do
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want In .- mcct hint. and sea thcfan
ih~~mlghl look ll!& mhc, but them
Is nothln~ for hls adopted. Frents lo
be frlghlmed of - I would only hope
he'd ..... be closer to Uln.
"~cca?!o~lly, 1 have a dcvastalin
lhoupht, Miss Ewlm conlloucd. "I!
my son were to dl?, 1 would new be
notifled. I am a molhcr - and lhmt
sunk.- u~ln " sold sand nlurscr d
hlerrhantvl!~~, N.J., coordjnator of lha
CnnEsmcd Unllcd ~- DlrthaarcnL1 -~.-~ - - ~ ~ Prim- ~
avlvnnlalSouth Jencv branch.
-MI88 ~usser (shc 1s separated from
her husband of 20 nrs and uses her
malden namc) hns Rund tho daughter
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rellnoulshed 23 vems nno.
"I wu'l5 when f beeami pregnant
1 was ahullled lo a rivata home where
a famlly took mc !n in cxchange lor
housework -..~ and babvrilllnn.
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n ~ev knew
a mlnlster who knew a couok who
wem lookin for 1 hoby to adopt. I
slgncd some&lng while I was prep&
1 dldn't even know what it wu,' &he
recalled.
$br glvln~ birth, she rctumcd to
hl school. That was In tho IOSO'r
w en we had axial dubs. I got a lettrr
from my club klckln me out because
I'd had a bmby. ~t tfe Ume, that was
even mom lraumallc for ma lhrn
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She found hcr dnunhlcr - llke most
reunilcd parenls sl~c wlll not dlvulpe
exaclly how - last May and met hcr
face to Facc on July 18, lhe daughlcr'r
23d'blrlhdav.
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One ol those 11 Donald Dl Gulscppc,
42 ynrs old, of Royarsford. Pa., a mem-
rkln lo "an actlon of vfolanec." lto
added. "Drlngln~ a rhlld Into thc world
and lvlng It away savers Ulo blolog~ml
contfnu~ty.
"I supporlcd whnt tho mother wnntcd
and tho1 was wrorlg. NOW lo fall to
keep the doors onen lo my daunl~lrr
would bc n sccond wrong, eicn tliouph
I have hccn olrle (o lcsm that shc's in
a good home!' Mr. Gulrenno docs not
know the Idcnllty of the dilld'i fami6;
nor IIIC locallon of thclr hon~c, "bii
1 know shc'n okny," 110 sold, '7110
patents are nlllgolng add progrcaslvc.
l'llty adopted anolllrr rttlld nnd took
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nry -dnuglilcr wll11 Ihm. I don't ll~lnk
she'll have problems." Ile has placml
Informallon about hlt~~sclf la tho
olficcs of the Cblldrcn's Ald Soclcly
in Wlrco countlea, rhould sha ever
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For now, 110 nald. "Sltc an11 f wc'm
strangers. Dl11 I hopc we won't nlwnys
he. 1 would like lo sca l~cr - If oaly
once.