Articles Book III - Pg 300-560 (Birthparents) - triadoption

In en unpublished peper by Sorosky, ot el prosentod nt
tlte annuel meeting of tho APS in Weshington, D.C. on
September 4, 1975, tl~ose reseerchers wrote: "When
asked /I they (bbthperonts) would be interested in a
reunion with tlte cllild tlloy relinquished, 82 per cent
seld yes."
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MARGARET AND NICK, NOW MARRIED AN0 IN THEIR EARLY
30s, WERE NOT MARRIED WHEN MARGARET BECAME PREG-
NANT AT AGE 18. THEIR BIRTHSON BORN IN JUNE, 1964 WAS
SURRENDERED APPROXIMATELY THREE MONTHS LATER.
"Whon I loarnod I was pregnant, I modo mony mlotnkes. My
doctor gavo me ontl-nausea pills end tho druggist, o frlond of my
ount's, told her. I then phonod onothor ount who volunteorod to
holp me tell my dad. He hlt tho roof end lnslsted I quit my job
and move bock homo. Instood of feeling his concern, however, I
foced stonoy silenco ond tho intimidotion of how hurt he was.
Whon I told Nlck, ho asked mo whet I was going to do. He was
scared.
I was brought to the Solvotion Army where on authoritative
woman told my mother not to help me or oncourogo me in any
way to koop my boby. I rotortod that I would not stay there. My
mother suggested thot I leave her homo for she didn't went my
youngor slstor to bo mode aware of my situation, end that I
shouldn't return home until oftor I had given the beby away.
I thon boarded with people for whom I hod proviously worked
until a month bofore the child's blrth when I moved in with a
married friend, paid her board, end medo plans on what I'd do
when the beby came. I knitted boby clothes and sowod, and
collected things from friends who had things to spare.
The Hospltol Clinic roforrod mo to Children's Aid in Conodo
for possible hclp In my preparations for the child. Thore I began
to hear counselling on adoption ond how selfioss it would bo.
When my dependont littlo child was born and tho doctor askod
If ho would bo coming homo with me, I found mysolf telling him
thot I dldn't know. Wall, thoy took my boby oway and for throe
days I cried and bogged to so0 him, but no ono would liston to me.
Whon my sociol worker come to so0 me, sho just insistod I sign
o lot of popors for clrcumclsion, foster coro. birth registration, but
sho ignorod my noods rogarding my son. I don't think I will over
dislike onyono as much as I do her.
Tho first timo I hold my son ho wos a month old, and I nctuolly
FAMILY INVOLVEMENT