Articles Book III - Pg 300-560 (Birthparents) - triadoption

esponsible for soporoting mo from my first born son. For tho first
two yoors after my child wos born, my lifo was fillod with unboorable
mlsory. I jumped into o bod morrlogo with o man I barely
know just ono month lotor. I could not boor to bo oround cliildron
or onyono olso. I lost anothor child through o miscorrlogo. I bogon
to fool vory suicidal. If I hod not hod my socond son born to mo 22
months lotor, I would not bo horo today.
Tho surrondor of my son 110s always boon o polnful momory to
me. It hos boon o mistoko from tho mlnuto it hopponod. If I could
yo bock ond do it all ovor, I would dofinitoly koop my child and
toll thom 011 oxoctly whore to go1 My biggost problom bock thon
was thot 1 was young and inoxperioncod ond hod trust In overyono.
I wos oo~lly Influenced by pooplo who I thought woro trying to
holp me. I did not see through their intontlons until it was too late.
Thoro Is not o doy that goos by thot I do not think of my birthson.
1 lovo him and ho is stlll vory much o port of mo. I long vory
much to just look ot him and I constantly fool his prosonco close
to me. I fool very suro thot tiioro is o doy coming whon .I con be
with him ond he con know hls brotlior end I will once again
feol complete.
I con approclote tho lovo his odoptlvo poronts hovo for him
sinco tho birth of my socond son. I hovo no dosiro to hurt thom st
all but hopo thot whon tho timo comos, thoy will bo klnd onough
to lot him soorch for me ond holp him."
GAIL, 26, GAVE BIRTHTO LlSA IN MAY, 1969, WIiEN GAlL WAS
18 YEARS OF AGE. SHE SURRENDERED LlSA APPROXIMATELY
ONE WEEK LATER. GAlL IS CUB'S SECRETARY.
"From oorly odolosconco I wos unoblo to roloto to my fomily.
I mado myself unlovoblo. and bocomo unlovod - or so It oppoorod.
I turned olsewhoro for omotionol warmth, opprovnl ond succoss.
What stortod out as a friendship dovolopod ovor throo yoors into a
lovo offoir. It was o love as strong ond sincoro os any I will ovor
feol, but unfortunotoly it was a lovo bosod on socrot romonco ond
irresponsibility. Ho was twice my ogo, tho fathor of throo childron,
in tho midst of o troubled marriago. I was o noivo, lonely, romantic
toonogor who thought love would moko 011 things right.
Whon I told my poronts about my prognoncy, thoy wore
shocked and hurt. Thoy wero angry ot tho fothor. Thoy wanted to
protect me from pain and couldn't ond thoy folt liolploss. Tho only
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