Articles Book III - Pg 300-560 (Birthparents) - triadoption

did mo niucli good, nor much iiorm. Silo
told mo tliat tlioro wns no porfocl solution
for tho situation I was in. I iiod roolizod tliot
long boloro, but I kept trying to firid o
solution tliot woultl bo as noor ~iorfoct os
possible.
In Miss Wolloco's eyes there wos o perfect
solutlori and tliot wi~s odoption. If I rnoritionod
odoptivo situotioris I had rooti nbout
111 which tliings lindn't workod 0111 very
woll, slio would soy eitlior tiint slio (lid riot
boliovo tho story could ho trilo, or suggost
tiiot tho odoptivo poronts had riot rocoivod
enough help from thoir social workor. In
retrospect, it seems to mo tliol tlio CAS in
tiio fifties, ot loost, functioned rnninly as o
baby oxcliangc. Hod tlie CAS sociol
workors not boon so convincod of tho virtues
of adoption, pcrhnps thoy miglit hove
triod harder to find sorno oltornativcs to
suggost. They boliovod that ~rriloss on unwod
mother had a "roolislic" pion, she
would not be oble to roiso lior child successfully.
But thoy did riot oppoor to consider
it part of thoir rosponsibility to help us
formuloto sucli plans. Wo wore oxpoctcd to
come up with "realistic" plans on our own.
I do not rornornbor, for oxortiplo, oriy sociol
workor I corno into conloct witli, aver
voluntooring any inlormotion about govornniont,
or otlior, finoncini osslstnnco that
might bo nvnilnblo to a rnotlior raising lior
ciiiltl on lior own. And wlion I brouglit up
tlio possibility of 01)tolning sorno firionclnl
ossistanco from tlic baby's fotiior. Miss
Wolloco Unvo rlin no cncouragoriiorit. I
gatiiorod tliat sho had littlo enthusiasm for
pntornity suits bocouso slio thouglit sucli
casos difficult to win. l~ut I liovo no
rocolloction of onyono Irorn tilo ogo~icy
oven contncting tiic birthfotlior to suggost
iio had some rosponsibility in tile niottcr
orid miglit coritributo finonclolly to tho support
of tlio baby, or to chock out tlio nccuracy
of tlio inforrnntion on hirn I had
given the ngoncy, inforrnntion wliicii would
be possod on to tho adoptivo pornnts.
I iiad hod no contact witli tlio birthfotlior
niysolf since leoving Montroal. Ho hod not
orisworod tho lettor I hod sent him, so ono
day I phoned hirn. Hc boconic angry and
screarned at me at one point. I don't
romombor oxoctly who1 ho soid, but lio
govo me to understand thot I could expect
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