Articles Book III - Pg 300-560 (Birthparents) - triadoption

ell tliot. But, I don't think it should hurt o 30 yonr old woman to
know thet someone elso lovos her ond hos olwoys corod deeply
for her."
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SOCIETY'S PERCEPTION
"Tltis perception 01 the birthmotlror 0s merely an 'incubator'and
tlro birtlrfotltor as merely a 'stud' coldly dorrlos
their human feelings. Moreover, tliis relegates thom to
baby moclrinos boloro odoptivo parents who sometimes
absorb this impression lor a liletime, reinlorcing tlto
'robot' myth within birthporcnts. Thus . . . leelings of
wortlilessness and guilt can remain within the core 01
their beings lor e liletime . . .
- CUB lnformetlonol Brochure
SANDRA, 39, WAS 23 AT THE TIME OF HER DAUGHTER'S
BIRTH IN DECEMBER; 1860. SHE SURRENDERED ONE WEEK
LATER.
"My rooction to the pregnancy was penlc. I hod my first
teochlng job ofter greduatlon from college. In those doys, If onyon0
hod known my coroer would have been rulnod. I felt guilt, olso.
I was brought up to believo thot sex boforo morrioge wos wrong.
I was confused: what should I do, go, otc. . . . There wos also a
big why, It was the first time I had sex.
My perents were supportive but they didn't wont anyone in
town to know becouso thoy felt It would be a disgrace to them
omong thelr friends end church. I wos en only chlld, too.
No one else, except the birthfathor, know. He soid he wontod
to merry mo but kept stalling bocouso he wos montolly mlxod up
end he couldn't bring himself to go through with it. He celled
weekly and told me I was wrong to think of giving our child ewoy
but he nover could bring himself to merry me, but rather expected
me to go through with It olone.
Using tho story thot I wos doing groduato work. 1 moved 60
miles away to e Florence Crittonton Home. It had a good end bed
effect on mo. I learned humllity and not to judge othors. But. I
also wont along with overyone in the 'know', becouso I was so
confused and wonted help.
My prlveto ogency, tho Mothodlst Children's Village in Mlchlgan,
hado very understonding social worker. Everyone, oxcopt the