THE DHAMMAPADA: THE WAY OF THE BUDDHA, VOL. 9-12 The ...

THE DHAMMAPADA: THE WAY OF THE BUDDHA, VOL. 9-12 11
I have given you the name Prem Barkha. It means ”love showering.” Yes, exactly that can happen. Love can
shower, bliss can shower, God can shower on you. Just be in a receptive mood. You are aggressive, you want more
that is aggression, subtle aggression. Be receptive, open, available, and then you are entitled to all the miracles
possible.
The second question:
Question 2
BELOVED MASTER, I FEEL LIKE I AM GETTING DETACHED FROM SEX. NOW WHAT IS NEXT?
Sant, that is only a feeling. It happens to almost everybody here. And the simple reason is not that you have
become detached, but you have become afraid.
So many women write to me, ”Why in your commune are men so afraid of us?”
Man has always been afraid. This is nothing new. But one man was living with one woman; he was afraid but
was able to manage somehow. Now here he sees women and women and women. He becomes really afraid. There
are biological reasons for the fear.
Women are capable of multiple orgasms, man is not. Sexually man is very poor compared to women. No man
is capable of satisfying any woman. If the woman is allowed freedom she will make anybody afraid, because she
will make you feel very inferior. She is capable of multiple orgasms: within seconds she can have many orgasms
and you can have only one orgasm. And with one orgasm you are finished! She has not even started and you are
finished that is very embarrassing. Because of this fear, man has repressed women all over the world. It is not
that man is stronger, that is why he has repressed women. No, it is out of fear.
Man has destroyed women’s capacity for orgasm. For centuries man has told them that orgasm is possible
only to men, not to women. He has taught women to be absolutely unalive in a sexual relationship. He has told
women, conditioned them, hypnotized them for centuries that it is more womanlike, ladylike, to be just silent,
unmoving. It is for the man to make all the movements, take all the initiative. Hence man makes love, not the
woman. The woman is just there, a silent partner. And the reason is great fear because, if she becomes an active
partner, she will reduce the man to almost nothingness. If she becomes active the man is very much afraid. How
is he going to satisfy her? All his manhood will be at stake. He will no longer be capable of bragging that he is
man, something higher, superior. Sexually he is not; sexually he is very inferior. In a muscular way he may be
stronger than the woman, but sexually he is not.
There are countries in Africa where operations are even done on small girls. The clitoris is cut when they are
very small a very painful operation just to make sure that they don’t have any idea of orgasm. In Sudan you will
not find a single woman who knows anything about orgasm because their very mechanism for orgasm is damaged;
their vagina is more like a wound than a healthy organ. What fear! to cut the clitoris. Then they will always
be inferior. In India I have asked many women, ”Have you ever achieved orgasm?”, and they say, ”What is it?”
I have never come across an Indian woman who knows what orgasm is, because that is very un-Indian, for an
Indian woman to feel orgasmic, to rejoice in making love.
I have heard that a man was making love to a woman on the seabeach. And then the policeman came and said,
”Are you mad or something? She is dead! What are you doing?”
He said, ”My God! I thought she was Indian!”
The Indian woman has to just be there, not doing anything. She has not to show any signs of joy. If a woman
really becomes orgasmic she will wake up the whole neighborhood! She will shout and sing and dance and jump.
She will do Dynamic Meditation! And the whole neighborhood will know what is happening.
Afraid of women, man has repressed them in subtle ways and sometimes not so subtle, like these Sudanese
people. In Africa many Mohammedan countries do it the operation, the surgery on the clitoris. Not only that,
they sew the vagina of the woman so much that making love to a woman becomes almost impossible. And the
childbirth is so painful that once a woman has made love to a man she decides never to do that again, it is so
painful! Once she has given birth to a child she decides never to be pregnant again; the whole experience is
nightmarish. And this has been done by man, and the priests have been behind it.
Sant, in my commune it is a totally different phenomenon. Centuries-old taboos are broken, centuries-old
inhibitions are thrown to the winds. I am all for freedom, particularly sexual freedom, because all other freedoms
are rooted in that. If a man or a woman is not orgasmic he is not alive, she is not alive they are dead. They
breathe, they eat, they walk, but that is not life. They only vegetate.
A scientist was doing an experiment on a certain species of fish. In that species the female fish, whenever
approached by a male fish, starts moving away in a very coquettish way, alluring, enchanting, inviting, but starts
escaping does not really escape but pretends that she is escaping. That excites the male; he starts running after