EQUALITY GUIdE - KU Leuven
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184 Equality Guide<br />
not correspond to what we expect from a person in authority.<br />
This does not come as a surprise if we compare the language that is associated with<br />
femininity and masculinity. The table in the Appendices (table 4.1) shows that what is<br />
considered as feminine language is quickly felt as inferior. Or in other words: “use of<br />
masculine language can give more power to what you say” 218 . Therefore, the problem<br />
is not the difference between women and men but the unequal value that is allotted to<br />
femininity and masculinity.<br />
Women speak more often in terms of ‘we’ instead of ‘I’, concealing their own successes<br />
and performances. Furthermore, women tend to want to keep harmony in a conversation<br />
and to take into account the impact of one’s own words on the other person. As a<br />
result, many women in a leadership position rather conceal than emphasize the power<br />
of their position.<br />
Men and women think they speak the same language but frequently the meaning they<br />
give to the same words is totally different. Men use communication to transmit content<br />
and information. For women, communication serves other aims too: it is a means to<br />
solve problems, to reduce stress, to create emotional links, to stimulate creativity and<br />
develop new ideas 219 . Men communicate in a result-oriented way in which efficiency<br />
and competence have the highest priority. Being open and showing (negative) feelings<br />
is experienced as being weak, incompetent and unprofessional. For women, emotions<br />
are meaningful and are expressed in order to understand themselves better. Once negative<br />
feelings are heard, they quickly disappear 220 .<br />
This very short explanation shows that misunderstandings are inevitable. In addition,<br />
because there are mainly men at the top at universities, it is not always obvious for<br />
women to find appreciation for their communication style.<br />
Moreover, many studies have shown that men speak longer; more often interrupt and<br />
more often take the floor than women do 221 . “These things also happen during conversations<br />
with people of equal rank and equal qualifications, even when women are in<br />
the majority.” 222 At meetings, for example, men frequently use subtle strategies to<br />
shorten the speaking time of women, so they can speak longer themselves or a man<br />
repeats in the middle of a heated discussion what was previously introduced by a<br />
woman. What the other participants of the conversation first ignored then suddenly<br />
gets the full attention of the group 223 . It is therefore difficult for women to get support<br />
for their ideas. Tannen says that this does not mean that women cannot be heard, but<br />
218 http://www.iiav.nl/epublications/2002/genderboekje.pdf, op. cit., p. 10.<br />
219 Van der Auweraert, A. (2004). Wetenschappers moeten leren communiceren in mensentaal.<br />
http://taalschrift.org/discussie/000512.html, 23/04/04.<br />
220 Gray, J. (2002). Mars en Venus op het werk. Utrecht/Antwerpen: Het Spectrum, 295 blz.<br />
221 Tannen, D., (1994), op. cit., p. 257.<br />
222 Ehrhardt, U. (2000), op. cit., p. 75.<br />
223 http://www.iiav.nl/epublications/2002/genderboekje.pdf.