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(Bk Business) Carol Kinsey Goman Ph.D.-The Nonverbal Advantage_ Secrets and Science of Body Language at Work -Berrett-Koehler Publishers (2008)

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Chapter 4: Face to Face<br />

73<br />

Genuine smile<br />

Smile th<strong>at</strong> doesn’t<br />

reach the eyes<br />

only affects the corners <strong>of</strong> the mouth but changes the entire<br />

face: the eyes light up, the forehead wrinkles, the cheek muscles<br />

rise, skin around the eyes <strong>and</strong> the mouth crinkles, <strong>and</strong><br />

finally the mouth turns up.<br />

Another signal <strong>of</strong> a genuine smile (<strong>and</strong> one th<strong>at</strong> is almost<br />

impossible to fake) is a lowering <strong>of</strong> the inner corner <strong>of</strong> the<br />

eyebrows. <strong>The</strong> absence <strong>of</strong> lowered eyebrows is one reason<br />

why false smiles look so strained <strong>and</strong> stiff.<br />

Real smiles are also difficult to fake when we feel neg<strong>at</strong>ive<br />

emotions. <strong>The</strong> polite smile <strong>of</strong>fered by a bored salesclerk, or<br />

by someone hearing a joke for the hundredth time, pulls up<br />

the lips but, literally, stops there.<br />

If you look <strong>at</strong> a photo <strong>of</strong> someone smiling <strong>and</strong> cover their<br />

lips, their eyes reveal everything about their real feelings.<br />

Mo Williams, an illustr<strong>at</strong>or <strong>and</strong> author <strong>of</strong> children’s books,<br />

says th<strong>at</strong> if he draws a face with unhappy eyes <strong>and</strong> a smiling<br />

mouth, it is a picture <strong>of</strong> a sad face. So there you have it! <strong>The</strong><br />

truth <strong>of</strong> a smile is in (<strong>and</strong> around) the eyes.

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