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(Bk Business) Carol Kinsey Goman Ph.D.-The Nonverbal Advantage_ Secrets and Science of Body Language at Work -Berrett-Koehler Publishers (2008)

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Chapter 2: Reading the Whole <strong>Body</strong><br />

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TRY THIS<br />

If you use leaning as a business technique, be aware th<strong>at</strong><br />

leaning toward a person in the early stages <strong>of</strong> a convers<strong>at</strong>ion<br />

will generally be perceived as encroaching on his territory.<br />

Early leans can make people uncomfortable <strong>and</strong> decrease their<br />

perception <strong>of</strong> you as likable. So wait until you’ve developed a level<br />

<strong>of</strong> rapport <strong>and</strong> interpersonal comfort, then make your move.<br />

Leaning backward usually signals feelings <strong>of</strong> dislike or<br />

neg<strong>at</strong>ivity. It’s a hardwired response from the limbic brain;<br />

we subconsciously try to distance ourselves from anyone or<br />

anything th<strong>at</strong> is unpleasant, disagreeable, or dangerous. In<br />

a se<strong>at</strong>ed convers<strong>at</strong>ion, leaning backward can also communic<strong>at</strong>e<br />

dominance.<br />

Leaning away to<br />

distance himself

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