(Bk Business) Carol Kinsey Goman Ph.D.-The Nonverbal Advantage_ Secrets and Science of Body Language at Work -Berrett-Koehler Publishers (2008)
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Chapter 10: Selling Your Message without Saying a Word<br />
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<strong>The</strong> Silent <strong>Language</strong> <strong>of</strong> Leadership<br />
Managers looking to help their organiz<strong>at</strong>ions, their teams, or<br />
their departments thrive in the twenty-first century need to<br />
forget about issuing orders or coercing with thre<strong>at</strong>s. Success<br />
in today’s world takes employee engagement <strong>and</strong> cre<strong>at</strong>ive<br />
collabor<strong>at</strong>ion—both <strong>of</strong> which must be freely given. You can’t<br />
force people to care or cre<strong>at</strong>e or share their best ideas with<br />
others, but you can influence their behavior <strong>and</strong> motiv<strong>at</strong>e<br />
them to achieve gre<strong>at</strong> things.<br />
To be a successful leader <strong>at</strong> any level <strong>of</strong> the organiz<strong>at</strong>ion,<br />
you need to tune in to the body language <strong>of</strong> those you<br />
lead so th<strong>at</strong> you can underst<strong>and</strong> the meaning behind wh<strong>at</strong>’s<br />
being said. Th<strong>at</strong>’s why all the nonverbal cues you’ve learned<br />
in this book will be extremely valuable. But you also need<br />
to be aware th<strong>at</strong> nonverbally you are constantly expressing<br />
your feelings, your likes <strong>and</strong> dislikes, <strong>and</strong> your expect<strong>at</strong>ions.<br />
(All leaders express enthusiasm, warmth, <strong>and</strong> confidence—as<br />
well as arrogance, indifference, <strong>and</strong> displeasure through their<br />
facial expressions, gestures, touch, <strong>and</strong> use <strong>of</strong> space.)<br />
When your nonverbal messages conflict with your verbal<br />
messages, the people you are talking to become confused.<br />
Mixed signals have a neg<strong>at</strong>ive effect on performance <strong>and</strong><br />
make it almost impossible to build rel<strong>at</strong>ionships <strong>of</strong> trust. This<br />
is true whether you are the chief executive <strong>of</strong>ficer, a department<br />
head, a team leader, or a first-line supervisor.<br />
Consider, for example, the oil company CEO who showed<br />
up <strong>at</strong> a refinery in an expensive suit <strong>and</strong> tie to discuss the<br />
firm’s st<strong>at</strong>e <strong>of</strong> affairs with rank-<strong>and</strong>-file oper<strong>at</strong>ors, electricians,<br />
<strong>and</strong> members <strong>of</strong> the warehouse staff, who were dressed<br />
in their blue, fire-retardant overalls. Th<strong>at</strong> was just the beginning.<br />
After being introduced <strong>and</strong> walking to the front <strong>of</strong> the<br />
room, he removed his wristw<strong>at</strong>ch (probably a Rolex) <strong>and</strong>