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Watu wazima wengi hudhani kuwa vijana hawana sababu ya kuwa na wasiwasi wala matatizo. Hata
hivyo, balehe ni kipindi cha kuchanganya na kufadhaisha. Maswali na dukuduku nyingi hutokea
wakati huu wa mabadiliko ya mwili na hisia. Pia, vijana hujiuliza maswali yanayohusu elimu, ajira
na uhusiano kwa marafiki na wazazi. Kipindi cha kubalehe kinaambatana na misukumo toka kwa
marafiki. Vijana huwa na wasiwasi kuhusu maisha yao ya baadaye.
Lakini kubalehe ni hatua muhimu na inayosisimua. Ni kipindi ambacho kijana hukua kimwili, kihisia
na kiakili. Pia, kijana huanza kupata majukumu na kuwa na ndoto kuhusu maisha ya baadaye. Vijana
balehe hujifunza kufanya uamuzi binafsi ambao huweza kubadili maisha yao ya leo, kesho na miaka
mingi ijayo.
Wakati wa kubalehe, kijana anahitaji taarifa sahihi ili zimsaidie kufanya uamuzi wenye nguvu na
usalama. Wazazi, walimu na watu wazima wengine hupata wasiwasi kuhusu uamuzi waufanyao vijana
wao unaohusu uhusiano, ngono,dawa za kulevya na vileo au kupanga maisha ya baadaye.
Hata hivyo, utafiti unaonyesha kuwa vijana wanaweza kupanga mambo yao kwa busara kama wakiwa
na taarifa sahihi pamoja na mbinu mbalimbali za maisha kama vile uwezo wa kufanya uamuzi,
mawasiliano, maelewano, wakisaidiwa na miongozo toka kwa watu wazima.
Kitabu cha “Wewe, Maisha Yako, Ndoto Zako” kinachambua masuala mbalimbali yanayowakuta
vijana balehe katika Bara la Afrika. Yaliyomo humu yameandaliwa kwa kuwashirikisha vijana
wenyewe toka nchi mbalimbali. Kitabu kimebobea katika masuala ambayo vijana wenyewe waliyaona
yana umuhimu: Kuingia utu uzima, kutunza afya, kukabili mifadhaiko, kuelewana na wazazi, kujenga
uhusiano wa kirafiki na kimapenzi, kukabili mifadhaiko na kuvunjika moyo, afya njema ya ujinsia,
kupata mimba, kutoa mimba, kukabili matumizi mabaya ya dawa za kulevya na vileo, masuala ya
elimu na ajira.
Zipo sababu mwafaka za kutaka kuhakikisha vijana wetu wanazo taarifa sahihi kuhusu masuala
haya. Vijana wanakumbana na mambo mengi yanayoongeza changamoto na uwezekano wao wa
kudhurika, ikiwa majumbani, mitaani, shuleni na hata kwenye vyombo vya habari. Leo hii, kijana ana
uwezekano wa kupata matatizo mengi ya kiafya kama vile magonjwa ya zinaa, VVU/UKIMWI, mimba
zisizotakiwa na utoaji mimba usio salama. Kiasi cha asilimia 60 ya maambukizi mapya ya VVU katika
Bara la Afrika yanatokea kwa vijana wa miaka 10 hadi 24. Hii ina maana kuwa vijana wanaambukizwa
VVU kwa kasi zaidi kuliko kundi lolote lingine.
Kijana aliyeko kwenye hatari zaidi ya kuambukizwa VVU ni yule asiye na taarifa sahihi. Kijana wa aina
hii anategemea zaidi kupata taarifa toka kwa marafiki, video au filamu na muziki wa kizazi kipya,
taarifa ambazo kwa kiwango kikubwa huwa si sahihi. Kwa hiyo, kitabu hiki kimekusudia kuhakikisha
vijana balehe wanapata taarifa sahihi na wanajijengea uwezo wa kukabili misukumo ya kutenda
yasiyofaa, kujenga uhusiano wenye faida na la muhimu zaidi; kuwawezesha vijana wafanye uamuzi
salama na wa busara.
Napenda kuwasisitiza wazazi, walimu na watu wazima wengine wasome kitabu hiki na
wawashirikishe vijana wao na wengineo. Aidha, nawasisitiza watu wazima waongee na vijana kuhusu
taarifa zilizomo na wawashauri vijana inavyopasa. Watu wazima wawasaidie vijana kuwa salama
katika kipindi cha mabadiliko kuingia utu uzima ili waweze kutimiza ndoto zao maishani.
Dr. A. Ananie Arkutu
Kwa Wazazi, Walimu, na Watu wazima wengine
Yaliyomo
ShuKuRani ................................................................................................................................................................... ii
utanGuliZi ....................................................................................................................................................................iv
Kwa Wazazi, Walimu, na Watu wazima wengine ..................................... ....................................................... ......... v
SuRa Ya 1: ujana balehe: baDiliKO KubWa, chanGaMOtO KubWa ....................................................... 1
Nini maana ya ujana balehe? ...................................................................................................................................................... 2
Ukweli kuhusu maisha ..................................................................................................................................................................4
Maadili.......................................................................................................................................... ................................................ ......5
Stadi za maisha................................................................................................................... ............................................................6
SuRa Ya 2: MabaDiliKO Ya MWili............................................................................. ............................................9
Mfoko wa ukuaji: mwanzo wa balehe.............................................................................. ........................................................9
Vichocheo (Homoni).............................................................................................................. .......................................................12
Via vya uzazi - Sehemu za siri............................................................................................ .......................................................13
Nywele za mwilini na mabadiliko ya ngozi....................................................................... .....................................................13
Uwezo wa kufikiri..................................................................................................................... ........................................... .........14
SuRa Ya 3: WaVulana........................................................................................................ .............................. .......17
Umbo na ukubwa wa mwili...................................................................................................... ...................................................17
Sauti yako................................................................................................................................... .............................................. ......18
Via vyako vya uzazi (Sehemu zako za siri)........................................................................ .................................... ...............19
Mazoezi ya usafi...................................................................................................................... ......................................................21
Kudinda kwa uume................................................................................................................... ....................................................22
Kumwaga manii “kukojoa”...................................................................................................... ....................................................23
Ndoto nyevu (“Kutoa manii/ Shahawa ukiwa usingizini”)........................................... ............................ .......................24
SuRa Ya 4: WaSichana.................................................................................................... ............................. ..........27
Maumbile na ukubwa wa mwili............................................................................................ ...................................... ..............27
Matiti yako................................................................................................................................ ............................................. .........27
Sidiria......................................................................................................................................... .......................................................31
Via vya uzazi ( Sehemu zako za siri )............................................................................ ...........................................................31
Kufanya usafi wa mwili vizuri................................................................................. ..................................................................33
Hedhi na mzunguko wa hedhi................................................................................ ...................................................................35
Kutunza kalenda............................................................................................................ ........................................... ...................39
Hedhi inavyokosesha raha........................................................................................ ....................................... ........................40
Ngono na hedhi................................................................................................................. ............................................. ................41
Kujisikia vizuri/ Afya na usafi ................................................................................... ..................................... ........................41
Utatumia nini kujihifadhi na hedhi.............................................................................. .................................... .......................42
SuRa Ya 5: MaMbO Ya MSinGi KatiKa KutunZa MWili........................... ....................... ...........................45
Jiweke safi, nukia vizuri................................................................................................... ......................................... .................45
Utunzaji wa meno yako..................................................................................................... ......................................... ................46
Chunusi.............................................................................................................................................................................................47
Utunzaji nywele................................................................................................................. ........................................... ................48
Lishe nzuri.............................................................................................................................. .............................................. ..........49
Mazoezi.................................................................................................................................. ...........................................................51
Mapumziko mazuri............................................................................................................ ...........................................................53