5-Endless Bliss Fifth Fascicle - Hakikat Kitabevi

‘alaihimurrîdwân.’ It was also proper to be single for people who
came after them; therefore, when Sufyân al-Sawri ‘rahmatullâhi
aleyh’ heard the above-mentioned hadîth, he said, “Wallah, it is
halâl to be single in this time.” When they asked Bishr al-Hâfî
the reason for his being unmarried, he answered, “I have such a
nafs that firstly I am trying to divorce it. How can I add another
one to it?”
Today likelihood of earning through ways of halâl has
decreased. It is now very difficult to protect oneself from the
harâms. It is neither suitable for the aql (wisdom) nor for the dîn
(religion) to drag someone else into harâms. Nevertheless, if
one’s lust becomes uncontrollable, one should try to reduce its
intensity by fasting. If one cannot decrease its strength by
fasting then marriage becomes obligatory (fard) for him. [If one
is afraid of being cruel to one’s wife, it will be tahrîm makrûh for
one to get married. Also people who are in danger of being
deceived and led to harâms by their nafs when they are among
lowly women who do not cover themselves and who expose
their private parts to men, should get married. It becomes fard
(obligatory) for this type of person to find a chaste Muslim girl
and marry her. Youngsters who are not desperate such as the
above-mentioned people for marriage, first should strive hard to
obtain knowledge and good morals. Then they should learn the
knowledge which pertains to the menstruation period of women
(Hayz), and the knowledge which covers the time that is right
after the birth of a child (Nifâs) and then they should get
married.] The appropriate time for marriage for a Muslim man is
when he learns the Sharî’at, and when he trains his nafs on
how to obey the Sharî’at, and when he acquires good moral
conduct and becomes a nice-tempered person, and also, when
he improves his wisdom. After fulfilling all these conditions, he
should marry a girl who has manners, modesty, and good moral
conduct, sufficient Islamic knowledge, and who is obedient to
the Sharî’at and who covers herself compatibly with the Sharî’at
when she goes out. One should look for a girl who has chastity
and who cares for her religion. One should not hold wealth or
beauty as a prerequisite. One also should not overlook the
chastity and goodness of a woman for the sake of money or
beauty. In a hadîth-i-sherîf Rasulullah ‘sallallâhu alaihi wa
sallam’ said, “One marries a woman either for her money or
for her beauty or for her religion (her piety). You choose the
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