5-Endless Bliss Fifth Fascicle - Hakikat Kitabevi

Because the divorce took place before the halwat and because
half of the mahr belongs to the woman by rights, she has to give
the other half of it back to the man. If she had not received her
mahr from her husband and said that she had made it halâl for
him, or if the mahr had been property other than gold, and if she
had given the property back to her husband as a gift and then
the divorce had happened, in these cases, it would not have
been obligatory for her to give anything to the man. For, when
she gives back the property which becomes ta’ayyun after
ta’yîn, the woman will not have been supposed to have
received the mahr.
Let us repeat once again that appointing the mahr during the
process of a nikâh is not a must-condition for its being sahîh. If
a man who is ignorant in religion alleges, “In Islam, man has to
pay mahr to a girl so that he can marry her. Consequently, a
woman is something for sale like merchandise,” he will have
slandered the Islamic religion. The mahr in Islam is not for
getting married, but it is for facilitating a happy and harmonical
life after marriage; it also protects the woman’s rights and
freedom; it prevents her from being a plaything in the hands of
ignorant and bad-tempered men. With the fear of paying the
mahr to his wife and the maintenance for the children every
month, a man cannot divorce his wife. Courts in countries
where this fear does not exist is filled up with files for divorce.
For this reason, it is better for girls to demand very little mahr
from a man who knows and respects Islam’s beautiful moral
system and the value it attaches to women; otherwise, it is
advisable to demand a great amount.
WOMEN WITH WHOM NIKÂH IS NOT PERMISSIBLE It is
harâm to marry twenty-five categories of women. They are
called mahram persons. Eighteen out of the twenty-five types
are eternally mahram. Seven women out of the eighteen are zî
rahm al-mahram, which means one’s close relatives by blood
and lineage. It is eternally harâm to mary one’s mother, one’s
mother’s or father’s mother, one’s daughter, one’s son’s
daughter, one’s daugter’s daughter, one’s sister, one’s sister’s
daughter, one’s brother’s daughter, one’s paternal and maternal
aunts. It is harâm to marry any one of them even unto death.
This means to say that a woman can never marry her father,
son, brother, maternal and paternal uncles, brother’s or sister’s
son. It is also harâm to marry any one of these seven kinds of
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