5-Endless Bliss Fifth Fascicle - Hakikat Kitabevi

“I have accepted this nikâh with this specified mahr for me.” If
the groom is not present, his wakîl answers by saying, “I, as a
wakîl of so and so, have accepted this nikâh for.... (name of the
groom) who is the son of ...... (name of his father) with this
specified mahr.” It will be better to say the amount of the mahr
when they answer. This answer is called Qabûl. The Islamic
nikâh is performed with this procedure of îjâb and qabûl. [It is
mustahab to deliver a paper to the wife after writing the amount
of mahr on it and putting down the signatures of the groom and
the two witnesses. The mahr is a human right. In case one
divorces one’s wife, one has to pay the mahr to the wife,
otherwise one will be put into jail in this world, and into Hell in
the Hereafter, in the second world. It must not be so easy for
many people to pay, let’s say twenty gold coins, or if one
Reshad gold coin is ten million liras, to pay about two hundred
million liras in cash, and to pay money to the mother for the
children’s maintenance every month, that is, to undertake the
responsibility of maintaining a second familiy. As seen, while
giving the right to divorce to a man, Allâhu ta’âlâ has made it
impossible for a Muslim to do it by stipulating heavy conditions.
Man’s having the right to divorce is not something more than a
means to threaten women; it helps and supports man in his duty
of conducting the family. The right to divorce seems to be in the
hands of man, but in fact, it is always in the hands of the wife.
When a Muslim man thinks of divorcing his wife, the fear of
paying money which can be afforded by very few people, the
maintenance which will have to continue for years, or being put
into jail in this world and into Hell in the second world will loom
in front of him like a mountain. When a woman wants to be
divorced, she says she has given her mahr to her husband as a
gift, or says that she has made it halâl for him; then she
embarks on an unpleasant behaviour in order to provoke him to
divorce her. Though it is so easy for a woman to be divorced, a
Muslim woman who is aware of the sacredness of family life
and also the husband’s rights on his wife does not want to
commit the sin of extinguishing her holy nest and thus suffer
misery and ignominy in this world and torment in the Hereafter
and to be wretched and wicked in this world. A divorcee does
not have to give anything to anybody. Her rich relatives have to
care for her. She is cared for by the Bayt-ul-mâl in case she has
no relatives. After divorcing his wife, a true Muslim has to work
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