5-Endless Bliss Fifth Fascicle - Hakikat Kitabevi

Arabic expression: “A’zamallâhu ajrak wa ahsana azâ-ak wa
ghafara li-mayyitik,” which means, “May Allâhu ta’âlâ add to
your thawâbs, promote your grade, and give you beautiful
patience, and may He forgive the sins of the mayyit (dead
person).” There is no thawâb for disasters and grievances;
there is thawâb for being patient about them. But they will
cause the forgiveness of your sins even if you are not patient
about your grievances. Illness is a grievance, too. It is
permissible for the bereaved person to stay at some place for
less than three days for consolation; but it is not permissible to
stay in a mosque, and women are not permitted to stay
anywhere (for consolation). Prayers are said after the burial,
and (sections from) the Qur’ân al-kerîm are read or recited
silently. It is makrûh to read them loudly. Then the jamâ’at and
the bereaved must leave for their work. It is makrûh to offer
consolation after the third day (of the death). However, it is not
makrûh for those who are far away and those who have heard
of the death later. Also, it is makrûh to offer consolation twice, to
do it by the grave, in the dead person’s home or at his door.
Consolation can be done by letter as well.
It is mustahab for the neighbors and the nearby relatives to
send a day - and - night’s food to the bereaved family. When
Ja’fer-i Tayyâr (radiyallâhu ’anh) was martyred with more than
seventy wounds with swords and arrows, Rasûlullah (sallallâhu
’alaihi wasallam) commanded food to be sent to his home. It is
makrûh and an ugly bid’a to dole out food, such as sweetmeat,
from the bereaved home. It is makrûh to make such things as
sweetmeat and shortbread on the first, third, seventh, [fortieth
or fifty-third] day, to mete out food by the grave, or to invite
hâfizes, khodjas, reciters of mawlid and have them read (or
recite) (religious poems, etc.), and give feasts. Such things are
being done mostly for ostentation and fame. Whilst these bid’ats
are being done many harâms are being committed as well.
Also, it is bâtil (invalid) to will (in your last request) that these
things be done. (Such wills) are not to be obeyed, for it is sinful.
You must not wait until the fortieth day; you must make such
presents as prayers, khatms and alms and have the
congregational prayers such as the mawlîd performed, provided
men and women will not gather together at the same place, on
the very first day of the death. The thawâb (for pious acts) must
be sent as presents to the dead person’s soul.
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