5-Endless Bliss Fifth Fascicle - Hakikat Kitabevi

one who is religious. A person who marries because of her
money will not be able to possess her money; a person
who only marries for her beauty will be deprived of her
beauty.” It would be the ideal if one can find a girl who is
beautiful and pious. It is not permissible for a Muslim girl to
marry a man who is a disbeliever. When she intends to marry
him, she becomes an apostate. In fact, two disbelievers will
have been married. They both should become Muslims and
renew their nikâh.
Seeing the girl before the nikâh is a sunnat; also it will
facilitate a good relationship between the mates during
marriage. One should search for a sâliha (pious) woman who
has good manners, who has a noble ancestry, and who is also
fertile. There is a saying which states that a man should avoid
four types of women:
1 - A divorced woman who lived comfortably with her former
husband and now is longing for those days and recollecting
them.
2 - One should not marry a girl with brags about her money,
rank or father.
3 - One should not marry a girl who will distribute her
husband’s property among her own relatives or acquaintances.
4 - One should avoid marrying to a woman who has the
reputation of being immodest and who would cause scandals.
A hadîth-i-sherîf which states, “Do not smell roses that
grow on a dunghills,” commands us not to marry a base and
immoral person. [A young man married a girl in Bukhâra (a city
in central Asia). The first night the bride asked the groom if he
had learned the knowledge of hayz (menstruation). The young
man answered in the negative. The bride then said, “Allâhu
ta’âlâ orders ‘Protect yourself and those under your
command from Hell-fire!’ How can an ignorant man protect
them?” The young man liked her statement so much that he
entrusted his bride to Allâhu ta’âlâ and departed to study. He
studied at Marw for fifteen years. He also studied under Imam
al-Muhammad ‘rahmatullâhi ta’âlâ ’aleyh’. He then memorized
everything in six years, and came back to his wife as an âlim
(scholar). His teacher named him as Abû Hafs al-Kabir
rahmatullâhi ta’âlâ ’aleyh.’]
A person who desires to get married should perform istihâra
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