5-Endless Bliss Fifth Fascicle - Hakikat Kitabevi

It is stated as follows in Ni’mat-i-islâm: “Kafâat (being kufw)
means the standards which a woman should expect the man
(she is to marry) to have. The man has to be either superior or
equal to the woman in six respects. A man with a lower
professional status cannot be kufw to a woman holding a higher
profession. This includes a comparison of their salaries or
wages, too. A sinful man, even if his wrongdoings are not widely
known, cannot be kufw to a girl who is sâliha (pious) or even to
a sâlih Muslim’s daughter. The husband ought to have the
financial capacity to pay the mahr-i-mu’ajjal plus the money
enough to support his wife for a month. A man who fulfils this
condition can be kufw to a wealthier woman. These conditions
are to be demanded during the performance of the nikâh. The
nikâh will not be impaired if they cease to exist after the nikâh.
A peasant can be kufw to an urban girl. If a girl’s nikâh is
performed for an amount of mahr less than the amount of mahri-mithl,
her walî can have the mahr complemented or have the
judge cancel the nikâh.”
If a person performs a man’s nikâh or divorces his wife (on
his behalf) though he is not his wakîl, validity of his performance
depends on the man’s accepting or refusing it upon hearing
about it. A slave’s master cannot divorce him from his wife. A
man can make someone else, as well as the wife herself, his
wakîl to divorce his wife (on his behalf). There are three ways of
doing this: The first way, termed Temlîk, is for the man to say to
his wife with the intention of divorce, “Exercise an option
concerning your nafs,” or “You have the choice,” or to say, even
without intention, “Divorce yourself.” In this case, the woman
can divorce herself before any of them leaves the place if he
has not mentioned a certain time, or within the period of time
given if he has appointed a certain time. Please see the thirtysixth
chapter in the second part of the Turkish version.
It is sunnat to serve sweets, fruits or sherbets to those who
are present during the performance of the nikâh and to serve
food rich in meat and desserts for the wedding party, to attend a
wedding feast when you are invited, and to announce a
wedding to acquaintances by beating drums and playing
tambourines.
It is not a condition there to be an imâm or to recite certain
prayers during a performance of nikâh. This is not a nikâh of
imâm (as some ignorant people in Turkey call it). It is an Islamic
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