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TryiIlg to Slow Down
Effective Version
Setting the stage:
You and your girlfriend (boyfriend) have been going out for a while. From the beginning
you touched and kissed a lot. On her (his) birthday, you are alone and feel very close.
After you have had something to celebrate the birthday, you begin kissing and touching
and feeling really good. Your girlfriend (boyfriend) wants to have sex with you, but you
decide to tell her (him) that you are not ready.
Person 1: Why are you stopping now?
Person 2: This feels good, but let's not have sex now.
Person 1: It isn't my birthday every day, you know.
Person 2: Yeah, I know, but I don't think we're ready.
Person 1: I've never had sex and want to have it with you first.
Person 2: Maybe some day, but, no, not now.