Daily Life of the Ancient Greeks
Daily Life of the Ancient Greeks
Daily Life of the Ancient Greeks
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The People 75<br />
The Wedding Ceremony<br />
Marriage created a much more violent and abrupt disruption in<br />
<strong>the</strong> life <strong>of</strong> a woman than it did in <strong>the</strong> life <strong>of</strong> a man, because <strong>the</strong> bride<br />
went to live in her husband’s house. Removed from her family at<br />
an age when she was scarcely past playing with dolls, she had to<br />
take on a number <strong>of</strong> onerous duties, chief <strong>of</strong> which was to produce<br />
an heir for her husband toute suite. One <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> most moving Greek<br />
myths, that <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> abduction <strong>of</strong> Demeter’s daughter Persephone by<br />
Hades, <strong>the</strong> grim god <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> underworld, explores <strong>the</strong> underlying<br />
tensions generated by this violent disruption. Persephone is innocently<br />
plucking flowers in a meadow when she is snatched away<br />
to become <strong>the</strong> bride <strong>of</strong> an aged and forbidding stranger whom she<br />
has never seen before. Although <strong>the</strong> myth in <strong>the</strong> version that has<br />
come down to us, an anonymous epic known as <strong>the</strong> Homeric Hymn<br />
to Demeter, focuses on <strong>the</strong> grief <strong>of</strong> Persephone’s mo<strong>the</strong>r Demeter<br />
ra<strong>the</strong>r than on <strong>the</strong> trauma experienced by her daughter, it none<strong>the</strong>less<br />
reveals a pr<strong>of</strong>ound insight into <strong>the</strong> institution <strong>of</strong> marriage from<br />
<strong>the</strong> female point <strong>of</strong> view.<br />
The most popular time for marrying was in <strong>the</strong> winter month<br />
<strong>of</strong> Gamelion, which means “<strong>the</strong> time <strong>of</strong> wedding.” The ceremony<br />
began with a sacrifice to <strong>the</strong> gods <strong>of</strong> marriage, Zeus and Hera, to<br />
whom <strong>the</strong> bride consecrated a lock <strong>of</strong> her hair. She also dedicated<br />
her childhood possessions to Artemis to appease <strong>the</strong> goddess’s<br />
anger at her impending loss <strong>of</strong> virginity.<br />
On <strong>the</strong> day <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> wedding, an A<strong>the</strong>nian bride took a ritual bath<br />
in water. This was poured from a special vase known as a loutrophoros,<br />
which means literally “a carrier <strong>of</strong> loutra (sacred water).” This<br />
bath prepared her for her new life. It was followed by a feast held<br />
at <strong>the</strong> house <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> bride’s fa<strong>the</strong>r. Here, <strong>the</strong> bride, who was veiled,<br />
sat apart from all <strong>the</strong> men, including <strong>the</strong> bridegroom. Beside her sat<br />
an older woman called a nympheutria, who guided her through <strong>the</strong><br />
ceremony. Instead <strong>of</strong> a tiered wedding cake with fruit filling covered<br />
in icing sugar, little cakes covered in sesame seeds were served<br />
to <strong>the</strong> guests. These were believed to make women fertile. Toward<br />
evening, <strong>the</strong> bridegroom led his bride, still veiled, from her fa<strong>the</strong>r’s<br />
house in a wagon drawn by mules or oxen. A chest containing her<br />
dowry probably accompanied her. The bride sat in <strong>the</strong> middle with<br />
<strong>the</strong> groom on one side and <strong>the</strong> best man, or paranymphos, on <strong>the</strong><br />
o<strong>the</strong>r. A torchlight procession preceded <strong>the</strong> wedding party along<br />
<strong>the</strong> route, and wedding hymns were sung to <strong>the</strong> accompaniment <strong>of</strong><br />
<strong>the</strong> flute and lyre.