Small Talk
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94 . the fine art of small talk<br />
an uncanny coincidence, or an incredible adventure. Find<br />
it and bring it out! Almost anything is a conversation in<br />
the making.<br />
LIMELIGHT ETIQUETTE<br />
There are a few rules to remember as you reluctantly<br />
step into the limelight. You will do fine if you follow this<br />
advice—no one is skulking about with a hook looking to<br />
pull you “offstage.” First, disclose information about<br />
yourself that is comfortable and uncontroversial. Lead<br />
with easy, positive, and light information. Building trust<br />
and intimacy over time creates friendships. Having a<br />
conversation is a little like peeling an onion—you want<br />
to proceed in layers, matching the level of intimacy<br />
shared by your partner.<br />
For instance, suppose your small talking sidekick has<br />
just confessed that, after a long holdout, the realities of<br />
being a soccer parent resulted in their family buying a<br />
minivan. This does not open the door for you to say that<br />
you’ve been recently diagnosed with breast cancer. However,<br />
if the conversation were taking place at the Race for<br />
the Cure, and you were wearing a pink ribbon indicating<br />
that you were a cancer survivor, it would be acceptable to