Small Talk

surviving the singles scene . 173
When you comment on someone’s response, they
will be prompted to say something in return. Use it as
connecting fuel.
What do you do when there is not a response to the
follow-up comment or disclosure? Use one of the followup
questions that you formulated and patiently kept
around in your head. Let’s go back to the example we’ve
been working with:
You: How often do you go out?
Her: Almost every night.
You: Now that sounds like a lot of work!
Her: (laughs but no response)
You: Where do you like to go?
Here was a follow-up question that was relevant to
the original question (How often do you go out?) and her response
to it (Almost every night). Other potential questions
could have been, Where do you get all that energy? or How
do you make so much time?
Once you get into the habit of making follow-up