Small Talk

get over your mom’s good intentions . 19
If ever there was a place you’d expect people to mingle,
it’s a singles event. Yet they are notorious for attracting
wallflowers. Most people at singles events—including
myself in a former life—spend most of their time uncomfortably
waiting around and scanning the crowd for a
friend. When a friend appears, they immediately spend
the evening hanging out together. If they wanted to be
with each other, why didn’t they just go out on a date? If
they don’t want to date each other, what are they doing
spending the evening together? They’re talking! Yes,
talking—it’s easy, comfortable, and safe. It is, however,
no way to meet someone new and spark a romance!
Good things come to those who take action and start
creating good things. American movie star, commentator,
and folk legend Will Rogers nailed it when he said, “Go
out on a limb. That’s where all the fruit is.” Although it
might be scary to climb out from the safety of the trunk,
you’ll rarely pluck the sweet fruit by waiting there.
IT’S UP TO YOU TO
START A CONVERSATION
Do you know the biggest social fear in America? It’s
public speaking. And do you know the second? It’s fear