Small Talk
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making it seem like unemployment is preferable to his<br />
own job woes. Before you know it, the group is talking<br />
all about what’s going on in the industry, and Brian’s job<br />
search is lost in the shuffle. His troubles aren’t acknowledged.<br />
No solutions are offered. No sympathy is given.<br />
No encouraging words found him. Brian is left feeling<br />
like no one really cares about his plight. While John<br />
might have thought he was being supportive, he wasn’t.<br />
He simply diverted attention away from Brian and onto<br />
himself.<br />
Women are experts at topping another’s story, but<br />
their approach is to match someone else’s. For instance,<br />
Rose talks about relationship problems she’s having with<br />
Steven, and Shelley commiserates by saying, Honey, I<br />
know just what you mean. My Anthony had the nerve to...<br />
The woman who topped the initial woman’s story didn’t<br />
really commiserate. She stole the show. She took the<br />
spotlight off the other woman and put it right on herself.<br />
She stopped the other woman in the middle of her story.<br />
A business friend, Vivian, recounted the following<br />
horror story she and her beau witnessed at a swinging<br />
soiree in Washington, D.C.: “Another couple attended<br />
with us. During the reception, the wife—we’ll call her<br />
Cathy—commented that another woman who was standcrimes<br />
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