Small Talk
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corporate headquarters. Our immediate supervisor noticed<br />
her and commented frequently on her work. When<br />
the time came for a promotion, she got it and I didn’t. I<br />
simply wasn’t as visible because I was so silent.<br />
I later learned another costly lesson about silence.<br />
My friend Johnnie, a regional director with a Fortune<br />
100 company, dragged me to all her company functions.<br />
Her boss, Bob, a senior vice president, attended these<br />
functions, too. I admired his poise and grace as he easily<br />
conversed with everyone. Bob’s self-confidence intimidated<br />
me so much that I rarely talked with him, despite<br />
my respect for him. Even when he approached me, I was<br />
too nervous to say much.<br />
When I moved into engineering sales, I called on<br />
Bob to reintroduce myself and promote my employer’s<br />
services. Before I could even finish introducing myself,<br />
Bob blasted me, saying, “I can’t believe that you’re calling<br />
me. We’ve been at the same parties a dozen times,<br />
and you’ve ignored me at every one. You’re the biggest<br />
snob I know. I have no interest in buying anything from<br />
you.” Needless to say, I was stunned and horrified by his<br />
reaction. It had never occurred to me that shyness could<br />
be mistaken for arrogance. While shyness and arrogance<br />
are worlds apart, the visible manifestation of each can apget<br />
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