Small Talk
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34 . the fine art of small talk<br />
I know I’m not alone in this. After a meeting, a<br />
woman named Julia walked up to me and said, “Debra,<br />
I’ve wanted to tell you something. My name used to be<br />
Debra, also. I used to give presentations for the government.<br />
Invariably, someone would call me Debbie while<br />
asking a question. I hate the name Debbie. Finally, I just<br />
couldn’t stand it anymore. I changed my name to Julia!”<br />
Make sure you use people’s names and get them<br />
right! For instance, I call a client whose secretary answers,<br />
Katherine Winter’s office, this is Susan. I respond by<br />
saying, Hi Susan. This is Debra Fine. May I speak with<br />
Katherine? Notice that I used each person’s name, and did<br />
not take liberties with any of them. Susan is very important<br />
because she represents the gateway to my client. It<br />
would not serve me well to annoy her by slashing her<br />
name to “Sue,” nor would it be helpful to avoid using her<br />
name altogether. Using people’s names shows that you<br />
are interested in them and makes them feel special.<br />
Another example: When I was at the video store returning<br />
a couple of overdue movies, I started talking to<br />
the clerk while we waited for my account details to show<br />
up on the computer. In the course of our brief conversation<br />
I used his name and asked if he had seen every movie<br />
in the store. By the time my late fees showed up on-