Small Talk

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turn into words, which you can then share as you approach
others or they approach you. It’s always easiest to
break the ice with a few observations about the situation,
rather than asking for personal information. Normally, if
you make an innocuous observation, the person on the
other end will respond with their impressions. It’s sometimes
effective to start small talking with a person of the
same gender; it’s less threatening and will get you over
your stage fright. Plus you never know, they might introduce
you to someone really interesting!
FIND THE CONNECTION
While Suzanne says she loves playing the field, most
people hope to find that special person with whom they
can honestly connect. Think about the words connection
and relationship. To “connect” or “relate” means to find
commonality with another human being. You can begin
looking for these connections as soon as you engage a
stranger in small talk by offering something about yourself
and by asking questions of the other person. Keep in
mind that when someone responds to your comment or
answers your question they usually give you more fodder
for small talk.