Small Talk
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the house. “You promised to help more with household<br />
chores. When do you plan to start keeping your promise?”<br />
I implore. “I am helping out,” Steve replies. “I’ve<br />
been collecting the trash and taking it to the curb every<br />
Thursday.” “That’s it?” I ask. I expected Steve to take on<br />
50 percent of the chores. But instead of clarifying what<br />
he meant by agreeing to my request for help, I assumed I<br />
knew what he meant. He assumed I meant any help<br />
would be appreciated. Men and women will say exactly<br />
the same words and yet mean two entirely different<br />
things. Clarify or paraphrase to prevent misunderstandings<br />
at work and at home.<br />
In an emotionally charged situation, you gain a side<br />
benefit of defusing anger when you repeat the specifics of<br />
what the other person stated. People naturally calm<br />
down when they realize they’ve been understood. Skilled<br />
customer service managers know that by repeating what<br />
an angry customer is saying, they can reduce the level of<br />
hostility. Remaining calm while doing so sends a message<br />
about your own professionalism and poise.<br />
Before expressing apologies, before solving a problem,<br />
let the person know that they have been heard by<br />
repeating the specifics.