Small Talk
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38 . the fine art of small talk<br />
a bite to eat, someone sitting alone at a table, or the one<br />
crossing the room unescorted. More often than not, these<br />
people are relieved to have someone else initiate the conversation.<br />
Believe me, I’ve been around plenty of these<br />
folks—they are intelligent, interesting, welcoming...<br />
and shy. They are in the same spot you were before you<br />
decided to improve your skills. If you take the conversational<br />
plunge, they will herald you as a savior.<br />
Make it a point to look around a room when you first<br />
enter it. It doesn’t matter what the event is—a meeting,<br />
a reception, a baby shower, a party, even a family<br />
reunion—there are people standing alone or sitting at an<br />
empty table. Don’t wait; make eye contact and be the<br />
first to smile. You’ll net a smile back, and you’ll put the<br />
other person at ease, the way any fine host would! People<br />
will reward you by being attentive listeners and giving<br />
you a chance to practice your icebreakers.<br />
Not only are icebreakers a good way to start a conversation,<br />
but some of the statements are accompanied<br />
by questions you can ask to keep the ball rolling. Don’t<br />
use a statement alone. Using a statement by itself is like<br />
lobbing the conversational ball blindfolded, not knowing<br />
where it will land or whether it will get tossed back.