Community Health Volunteer's Training Manual - Population Council
Community Health Volunteer's Training Manual - Population Council
Community Health Volunteer's Training Manual - Population Council
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Module 2 <strong>Community</strong> Mobilisation and Tools<br />
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Exercise 2.4.12<br />
Objective<br />
1. To discuss how gender rules<br />
affect the lives of men and<br />
women<br />
Time: 20mins<br />
Questions<br />
1. Have you ever been told to<br />
“act like a man” or “act like a<br />
woman”?<br />
2. Why do you think they said<br />
this?<br />
3. How did it make you feel?<br />
4. How can these gender rules<br />
be changed in order to<br />
improve the lives of women<br />
and men?<br />
Box 2.4.16: Society’s expectations of Men and Women<br />
The messages that men get about “acting<br />
like a Man” include:<br />
• Be tough<br />
• A man does not cry<br />
• Be the breadwinner<br />
• Stay in control and do not back down<br />
• Have sex when you want it<br />
• Get sexual pleasure from women<br />
• Have sex when you want it<br />
• Get sexual pleasure from women<br />
• Men must discipline their wives<br />
• A man place is not the kitchen<br />
Difference between Sex and Gender<br />
Instruction to the Facilitator<br />
1. Print “Act like a Man” and “Act like a Woman”<br />
separate sheets of newsprint and post them<br />
2. Ask participants what men and women are<br />
told in their community about acting like a<br />
man or acting like a woman<br />
3. Write these messages up on the appropriate<br />
sheet<br />
4. Compare to key points in Box 2.4.16 to see<br />
the kinds of messages that are often listed<br />
5. Feed these into the discussion if they have<br />
not been mentioned<br />
6. When the group has no more to add to the<br />
list, begin a discussion about gender rules<br />
by asking the questions in Box 2.4.17 and<br />
compare responses.<br />
7. Discuss with participants the consequences<br />
of living outside the box.<br />
The messages that men get about<br />
“acting like a Man” include:<br />
• Be passive and quiet<br />
• Be the caretaker and homemaker<br />
• Act sexy, but not too sexy<br />
• Be smart, but not too smart<br />
• Follow men’s lead<br />
• Keep your man – provide him with<br />
sexual pleasure<br />
• Don’t complain<br />
People use the words “sex” and “gender” to talk about the differences between women and<br />
men. But these two words mean different things.<br />
Sex - is the biological (body) differences between males and females, in terms of their bodies<br />
(such as the male penis and the female vagina) and the different roles that males and females<br />
play in reproduction (giving birth to babies). We are born with our sex.