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Community Health Volunteer's Training Manual - Population Council

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Module 2 <strong>Community</strong> Mobilisation and Tools<br />

142<br />

Exercise 2.4.12<br />

Objective<br />

1. To discuss how gender rules<br />

affect the lives of men and<br />

women<br />

Time: 20mins<br />

Questions<br />

1. Have you ever been told to<br />

“act like a man” or “act like a<br />

woman”?<br />

2. Why do you think they said<br />

this?<br />

3. How did it make you feel?<br />

4. How can these gender rules<br />

be changed in order to<br />

improve the lives of women<br />

and men?<br />

Box 2.4.16: Society’s expectations of Men and Women<br />

The messages that men get about “acting<br />

like a Man” include:<br />

• Be tough<br />

• A man does not cry<br />

• Be the breadwinner<br />

• Stay in control and do not back down<br />

• Have sex when you want it<br />

• Get sexual pleasure from women<br />

• Have sex when you want it<br />

• Get sexual pleasure from women<br />

• Men must discipline their wives<br />

• A man place is not the kitchen<br />

Difference between Sex and Gender<br />

Instruction to the Facilitator<br />

1. Print “Act like a Man” and “Act like a Woman”<br />

separate sheets of newsprint and post them<br />

2. Ask participants what men and women are<br />

told in their community about acting like a<br />

man or acting like a woman<br />

3. Write these messages up on the appropriate<br />

sheet<br />

4. Compare to key points in Box 2.4.16 to see<br />

the kinds of messages that are often listed<br />

5. Feed these into the discussion if they have<br />

not been mentioned<br />

6. When the group has no more to add to the<br />

list, begin a discussion about gender rules<br />

by asking the questions in Box 2.4.17 and<br />

compare responses.<br />

7. Discuss with participants the consequences<br />

of living outside the box.<br />

The messages that men get about<br />

“acting like a Man” include:<br />

• Be passive and quiet<br />

• Be the caretaker and homemaker<br />

• Act sexy, but not too sexy<br />

• Be smart, but not too smart<br />

• Follow men’s lead<br />

• Keep your man – provide him with<br />

sexual pleasure<br />

• Don’t complain<br />

People use the words “sex” and “gender” to talk about the differences between women and<br />

men. But these two words mean different things.<br />

Sex - is the biological (body) differences between males and females, in terms of their bodies<br />

(such as the male penis and the female vagina) and the different roles that males and females<br />

play in reproduction (giving birth to babies). We are born with our sex.

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