specific needs of children and elderly left behind as a ... - IOM Moldova
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The health <strong>of</strong> family members The involved perception in the <strong>of</strong> migration labour migration process<br />
unprotected sexual contacts. Such c<strong>as</strong>es are encountered in the study: “I<br />
met a girl who started having sexual contacts at the age <strong>of</strong> 14, <strong>and</strong> when she<br />
w<strong>as</strong> 16 years old she gave birth. Her mother w<strong>as</strong> in Israel, where<strong>as</strong> the father<br />
w<strong>as</strong> drinking <strong>and</strong> w<strong>as</strong> coming home rarely. The girl ab<strong>and</strong>oned her baby...”<br />
(FG_EC_urban).<br />
The c<strong>as</strong>e <strong>of</strong> a 17 year old girl is a demonstrative one <strong>as</strong> her mother h<strong>as</strong><br />
been abroad for six years. During this period the child w<strong>as</strong> in need <strong>of</strong><br />
proper sexual education, communication <strong>and</strong> advice from an adult. Unfortunately,<br />
the girl w<strong>as</strong> <strong>left</strong> with her aunt with whom she w<strong>as</strong> in permanent<br />
conflict. At her young age, she already h<strong>as</strong> a complicated gynaecological<br />
anamnesis (2 abortions) <strong>and</strong> an obvious psycho-emotional<br />
liability: “I suffer a lot, I have to take decisions on my own <strong>and</strong> I’m afraid.<br />
I have no one to talk to; I don’t know whether I am doing good or bad<br />
things...” (III_C_17).<br />
Lack <strong>of</strong> knowledge about a risk-free sexual behaviour is the main cause<br />
<strong>of</strong> sexually transmitted dise<strong>as</strong>es with a significant negative impact on<br />
the reproductive health <strong>of</strong> the population.<br />
The study proved that while away, many parents are reserved to discuss the<br />
sexual problems their teenagers may have, considering this a “taboo” topic.<br />
Most <strong>children</strong> got the information about sexual maturation from m<strong>as</strong>s media,<br />
friends <strong>and</strong> less so from school: “We talk at school about this, but we are<br />
not waiting <strong>and</strong> we start to look for information by ourselves. Where? From<br />
our parents? No! I do not think this should be discussed with the parents. I<br />
have a doctor cousin <strong>and</strong> I talk to her. Moreover, I use the computer <strong>and</strong> the<br />
Internet to search for this kind <strong>of</strong> information. It is not absolutely necessary<br />
to talk to somebody… Yes, I talk to my mom sometimes but because <strong>of</strong> the<br />
embarr<strong>as</strong>sment it’s not that simple either for me or for them to discuss these<br />
subjects” (FG_C_1_urban).<br />
A significant obstacle in sexual education <strong>of</strong> <strong>children</strong> is the communication<br />
conflict between generations. Children who live with their gr<strong>and</strong>parents<br />
usually do not discuss these kind <strong>of</strong> issues, which traditionally are<br />
considered by the older generation a shameful <strong>and</strong> closed topic: “Children<br />
whose parents are abroad are helpless because nobody can tell them things<br />
that their parents could, not even their gr<strong>and</strong>parents” (FG_C_3_rural); “I<br />
<strong>as</strong>ked my gr<strong>and</strong>mother what it is like to be grown-up <strong>and</strong> she said that I<br />
would see it myself, <strong>and</strong> that w<strong>as</strong> it... I didn’t <strong>as</strong>k my friends because I feel<br />
embarr<strong>as</strong>sed” (III_C_10).<br />
However, physical distance between parents who are abroad <strong>and</strong> <strong>children</strong><br />
who remain at home create an emotional distance, which makes<br />
sincere <strong>and</strong> open communication even more problematic. Although the<br />
large majority reported that they frequently communicate by phone or<br />
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