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Psychological and social effects of migration
and I was choking but now I can run a lot and I am ok. But he likes to
play jokes and he just think it’s funny to take my inhaler from me… but
I feel bad…”;
- Joining the “gang” and running away from home: “We had problems
with these guys, he entered their “gang”… he can stay out for a whole
night… and I sit and worry…”.
The adolescent with a deviant behaviour feels the need to communicate
with the psychologist in certain situations, when he feels that he lacks
moral security: “Maybe with the psychologist, I can talk to him sometimes.
There is one in our school. It’s just there are guys who beat me, call me
names…” (III_C_11). Moreover, he asked for mayor’s help: “I went home
to the mayor and I talked to him. I just had to. Nobody asked me to, I went
there by myself. I asked for my grandmother to have full official right to take
care of me and now she has all documents”.
We can conclude that it should be taken into consideration the fact that
children left behind can behave differently (in a positive or negative way,
that is in a simulative or inhibitive way), adhering or neutralizing themselves,
developing the so-called “determinant complexes” of the criminal
action. Thus, one can see the difficulty of designing human behaviour from
a psychological point of view when the child is given different socialization
models. The factors determining deviance and delinquency in the behaviour
of children whose parents are abroad have to be systematically approached.
Deprivation of maternal care is visible and can be identified in
extreme behaviour of the adolescent with an unidentified self-image.
Besides, there is severe need of psychological support that confirms our
hypothesis regarding adolescents’ frustrations, affect and internal conflicts.
The absence of parents makes children feel unhappy and they say that being
happy means “Not to fight with my grandmother, and my mom is near…
I do not need anything else… (III_C_11).
A child’s psychological trauma is obvious. The child lives the pain of separation
by going through several levels of affective shock, anger, puzzlement,
accusation and self-blaming, etc. while looking for and finding mechanisms
to redress their situation.
Elderly
• Emotional condition of the elderly
Ageing represents a set of transformations affecting the last period of life
which is marked by a decline process and pessimist attitude of elderly.
The elderly in difficulty are those persons who when they were young
had a full life, filled with possibilities. The elderly have relatives, grown-
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