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The perception <strong>of</strong> labour migration<br />
their age: “We grow up prematurely <strong>and</strong> we lose our childhood. For instance, I<br />
became an adult earlier than I should have <strong>and</strong> I am taking care <strong>of</strong> the things<br />
that my mom used to do. I have forgotten when I w<strong>as</strong> childishly smiling not so<br />
long ago <strong>and</strong> sometimes I smile because I have to, but deep down inside I have<br />
a gap filled with sadness” (FG_C_3_rural). The consequences <strong>of</strong> this problem<br />
will be perceived at the society level after a certain period <strong>of</strong> time.<br />
It should be mentioned that the most important issue represents the separation<br />
with their parents <strong>and</strong> consequently the loneliness that is perceived<br />
by respondents <strong>as</strong> a reality that will p<strong>as</strong>s when their parents will return<br />
back. Still, specialty books explain the seriousness <strong>of</strong> the loneliness phenomenon<br />
<strong>as</strong> well <strong>as</strong> potential consequences that may unfold over time, affecting<br />
the multilateral development <strong>of</strong> a child’s personality. Regardless <strong>of</strong><br />
their age <strong>and</strong> sex, <strong>children</strong> feel frustrated <strong>and</strong> feel their parents’ absence <strong>as</strong><br />
a problem forcing them to grow up prematurely. The study highlighted the<br />
fact that, unfortunately there are c<strong>as</strong>es when this maturation is considered<br />
an adequate moment to try various deviant behaviours.<br />
• The way migrant family members perceive problems (according to<br />
<strong>children</strong>’s point <strong>of</strong> view)<br />
The relationship between parents <strong>and</strong> <strong>children</strong> also depends on the level<br />
they perceive problems that their <strong>children</strong> being at home have to face. A<br />
decre<strong>as</strong>e in relationship intensity can lead to a drop in family cohesion <strong>as</strong><br />
happened in a family with two daughters living in a rural area. Their father<br />
comes home only when he h<strong>as</strong> a day <strong>of</strong>f from his job in Chisinau <strong>and</strong> the<br />
girls’ mother <strong>and</strong> their brother are both abroad: “during those eight days<br />
that I had to stay in the hospital neither my mom nor my dad called me although<br />
they both knew that I w<strong>as</strong> in hospital...” (III_C_19).<br />
The interviewed <strong>children</strong> claim that parents generally underst<strong>and</strong> their<br />
problems: “they (parents) always encourage me in my actions <strong>and</strong> decisions <strong>and</strong><br />
they help me accomplish my dreams” (III_C_1). Children are especially grateful<br />
that their parents started to talk to them <strong>as</strong> to their peers, to approach serious<br />
matters that previously were avoided: “she behaves like I’m one <strong>of</strong> her friends, we<br />
talk about grown-up things” (III_C_18). The problems that <strong>children</strong> confess to<br />
their parents refer to the communication with their peers, school activities <strong>and</strong><br />
their school situation, health, leisure, money management <strong>and</strong> daily activities.<br />
The problem is differently perceived depending on the gender <strong>of</strong> the parent,<br />
the interviewed (especially the girls) think that a mother shows a<br />
higher degree <strong>of</strong> underst<strong>and</strong>ing while a father is more reserved: “my mom<br />
underst<strong>and</strong>s me better than my father does...”<br />
There are c<strong>as</strong>es <strong>of</strong> major difficulties in the relationship between <strong>children</strong><br />
<strong>and</strong> parents, generated by the discontinuity <strong>of</strong> sincere communication,<br />
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