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Psychological <strong>and</strong> social effects <strong>of</strong> migration<br />
Another peculiarity unveiled by the research refers to the length <strong>of</strong> the emotional<br />
experiences felt by <strong>children</strong> <strong>left</strong> <strong>behind</strong>. We concluded that most <strong>of</strong> the<br />
interviewed <strong>children</strong> strongly express longing for their mother, father, parents,<br />
the happiness to meet them again <strong>and</strong> sadness when they leave again.<br />
These emotions persist in time, regardless if the people who caused them are<br />
present or not. This peculiarity is <strong>of</strong> great importance <strong>as</strong> by permanent nourishment<br />
<strong>of</strong> the emotional significance <strong>of</strong> a stimulus (a concrete person for a<br />
child), the child can maintain a healthy emotional attitude towards it.<br />
The essay My family (a distant prospect) reveals <strong>children</strong>’s long-term emotions,<br />
attitude <strong>and</strong> <strong>as</strong>pirations, fed by moment feelings. The child compensates<br />
through her reveries not only her family that she misses at the<br />
moment but also her emotional family relationship: “ I can almost see them<br />
waiting for me at the door with their eyes full <strong>of</strong> tears <strong>and</strong> reaching for us to<br />
hold us <strong>and</strong> kiss us with longing <strong>and</strong> love <strong>and</strong> I can see them being happy that<br />
they have us <strong>and</strong> I can see them praying to the icon every single night <strong>and</strong> us<br />
eating home-made bread. What a wonderful word the family is” (E_36_14<br />
year old_female_boarding school).<br />
This feature is also true when speaking about the relationship with the caregiver<br />
not only with parents: ,,when I w<strong>as</strong> 7 months old my father <strong>left</strong> me. I<br />
grew up with my gr<strong>and</strong>mother <strong>and</strong> I still live with my gr<strong>and</strong>parents <strong>and</strong> can<br />
give you only advice to love your gr<strong>and</strong>parents <strong>as</strong> much <strong>as</strong> they love you, <strong>and</strong><br />
never leave them no matter what happens” (E_63_16 year old_male_boarding<br />
school). The emotional maturity or immaturity is determined by the<br />
relationship <strong>children</strong> have had with their parents or caregivers. The possibility<br />
to communicate with parents, to meet the need <strong>of</strong> security through<br />
the means <strong>of</strong> favourable family relations represents a premise to the development<br />
<strong>of</strong> a morally healthy person, harmoniously, socially <strong>and</strong> mentally<br />
developed <strong>and</strong> able to keep their positive emotions towards their parents<br />
or caregivers. A person who is emotionally immature is e<strong>as</strong>ily susceptible,<br />
vulnerable <strong>and</strong> socially unadjusted.<br />
The results <strong>of</strong> the research denote that some <strong>children</strong> feel happy with their<br />
gr<strong>and</strong>parents who take care <strong>of</strong> them; nevertheless they continue to deeply<br />
suffer from the separation from their parents. For instance a girl 13 years<br />
old confesses: “I live with my gr<strong>and</strong>parents right now. My mother <strong>and</strong> father<br />
are abroad <strong>and</strong> I miss them very much. I stay with my gr<strong>and</strong>parents for 12<br />
years <strong>and</strong> I am happy with them. Still, I am waiting every day for my mom<br />
to get back. I must be very happy to have such great gr<strong>and</strong>parents who take<br />
care <strong>of</strong> me since I w<strong>as</strong> 1 year old”.<br />
You are far away, my mother<br />
Even if you’re gone,<br />
I love you very much,<br />
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