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CHAPTER I<br />
<strong>and</strong> the interviewer describes the house <strong>as</strong> being clean <strong>and</strong> warm. The<br />
<strong>children</strong> <strong>of</strong> this old lady who are abroad, are regularly sending money<br />
in order to cover all the living expenses for the family who h<strong>as</strong> been <strong>left</strong><br />
<strong>behind</strong> at home<br />
Another similar example is the c<strong>as</strong>e <strong>of</strong> a lady aged 71 who takes care <strong>of</strong> her<br />
student-gr<strong>and</strong>daughter. The gr<strong>and</strong>mother lives with the life <strong>and</strong> the interests<br />
<strong>of</strong> her gr<strong>and</strong>daughter, which motivates her a lot to provide her with<br />
adequate living conditions: “I wake up, I prepare her the breakf<strong>as</strong>t, I boil the<br />
water, we brush the teeth, she gets dressed, I prepare the food – sometimes<br />
cornflakes with milk, sometimes semolina, <strong>and</strong> I take her to school <strong>and</strong> after<br />
I get back I w<strong>as</strong>h the dishes <strong>and</strong> cook the lunch <strong>and</strong> then go to take her from<br />
school. Then I take her to English cl<strong>as</strong>ses <strong>and</strong> in the end we do her homework<br />
together. We watch some cartoons <strong>and</strong> shows in English” (III_E_3). The<br />
same lady says: “We do the laundry very <strong>of</strong>ten, for instance we change our<br />
underwear every day because that’s what my daughter told me to do”. This<br />
indicates that the gr<strong>and</strong>mother is doing her best to ensure adequate living<br />
conditions for her gr<strong>and</strong>daughter to reduce <strong>as</strong> much <strong>as</strong> possible the impact<br />
<strong>of</strong> her mother’s absence.<br />
Conversely, placing the care <strong>of</strong> minors on the shoulders <strong>of</strong> the <strong>elderly</strong><br />
who suffer from many dise<strong>as</strong>es, represents an enormous load for<br />
them <strong>and</strong> this keeps them in a constant state <strong>of</strong> stress <strong>and</strong> agitation.<br />
Here is the c<strong>as</strong>e <strong>of</strong> a lady aged 62, who h<strong>as</strong> been taking care <strong>of</strong> her two<br />
gr<strong>and</strong><strong>children</strong> for 13 years: “I feel very bad <strong>and</strong> this diabetes is killing me,<br />
the arthritis – my foot h<strong>as</strong> swollen <strong>and</strong> I have hepatitis C... My liver hurts<br />
so bad... <strong>and</strong> my kidney – I think that my sugar is destroying everything.<br />
And it’s so hard. I almost never go out because I cannot walk, or I feel<br />
dizzy from the pressure <strong>and</strong> my feet start hurting” (III_E_12). Being very<br />
ill, she continued to work, because it would be impossible to raise two<br />
<strong>children</strong> with the pension she receives. Her daughter, the mother <strong>of</strong> the<br />
<strong>children</strong>, is abroad, <strong>and</strong> she’s not involved in the raising <strong>of</strong> her <strong>children</strong>.<br />
“I have no force to work. I worked because I have two gr<strong>and</strong><strong>children</strong> to<br />
bring up... When I w<strong>as</strong> still working things were better but now it’s really<br />
hard – they’re so big now... They’re like two grown-up men <strong>and</strong> they eat<br />
like 7 persons!” The woman is concerned for her gr<strong>and</strong><strong>children</strong>: “It’s the<br />
time when you have to be very careful, not to let them do stupid things,<br />
<strong>as</strong> they’re boys”.<br />
Similar situations were mentioned by the experts, identified <strong>as</strong> a result <strong>of</strong><br />
the focus-groups: “The old lady doesn’t have the same forces to take care <strong>of</strong><br />
her gr<strong>and</strong><strong>children</strong>; she’s always angry <strong>and</strong> tense” (FG_ EE_urban).<br />
The care for their gr<strong>and</strong><strong>children</strong> requires both financial resources <strong>and</strong><br />
energy from the <strong>elderly</strong>. It is important to note that in many c<strong>as</strong>es they<br />
lack them, especially when afflicted by greater deficiencies <strong>and</strong> serious<br />
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