PeopleSmart in Business eBook - The Platinum Rule
PeopleSmart in Business eBook - The Platinum Rule
PeopleSmart in Business eBook - The Platinum Rule
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to round off your own sharp edges and to develop strengths you did<br />
not know you had.<br />
Some people reject the notion of “types” or “styles.” Putt<strong>in</strong>g people<br />
<strong>in</strong> boxes, they say, is not the way to really get to know one another.<br />
Instead, they contend, that’s stereotyp<strong>in</strong>g, a process that may be unfair<br />
to the <strong>in</strong>dividual and uses unrealistic shortcuts to appreciat<strong>in</strong>g unique<br />
human be<strong>in</strong>gs.<br />
Understand<strong>in</strong>g someone’s behavioral style is not mutually exclusive<br />
with genu<strong>in</strong>ely gett<strong>in</strong>g to know them. Far from it. In fact, us<strong>in</strong>g People<br />
Smart can greatly accelerate that process. If you can quickly notice<br />
another person’s needs-based cues and adapt your own behavior, you<br />
will learn to value others more genu<strong>in</strong>ely. You will see that their needs<br />
are just as valid as yours are, and you can, if you choose, seek to meet<br />
those desires and forge a deeper relationship.<br />
Not manipulation<br />
Another important po<strong>in</strong>t: When we talk about us<strong>in</strong>g People Smart,<br />
we are not talk<strong>in</strong>g about manipulat<strong>in</strong>g people! Rather, we are talk<strong>in</strong>g<br />
about learn<strong>in</strong>g, <strong>in</strong> a way, to speak their language.<br />
It is not considered manipulative to speak French when <strong>in</strong> Paris,<br />
for example. Au contraire. It’s someth<strong>in</strong>g you do briefl y while on the<br />
Frenchman’s soil so you can be more compatible. You do not alter your<br />
basic nature while <strong>in</strong> France. Your ideas do not change. However, how<br />
you present those ideas does change.<br />
Similarly, practic<strong>in</strong>g People Smart does not fundamentally change<br />
you or the other person. It empowers you by mak<strong>in</strong>g you multil<strong>in</strong>gual,<br />
<strong>in</strong> a sense. Know<strong>in</strong>g how to listen and speak <strong>in</strong> the “language” of those<br />
around you is a delightful, useful tool that can be used to resolve differences,<br />
maximize strengths, and enjoy a fuller, more successful life<br />
by better understand<strong>in</strong>g yourself and the people around you.<br />
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