PeopleSmart in Business eBook - The Platinum Rule
PeopleSmart in Business eBook - The Platinum Rule
PeopleSmart in Business eBook - The Platinum Rule
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Three: How Will You Know One When You Meet One?<br />
Because time equals money to Guarded people, they’re more discipl<strong>in</strong>ed<br />
about how other people use their time. In part, this expla<strong>in</strong>s<br />
their tendency not to show, discuss, or will<strong>in</strong>gly listen to thoughts and<br />
feel<strong>in</strong>gs like Open people. Guarded people are more matter-of-fact,<br />
with more fi xed expectations of people and situations. Just as facts place<br />
second for Open people, feel<strong>in</strong>gs take a back seat for Guarded people.<br />
You might say that Open people experience life by tun<strong>in</strong>g <strong>in</strong> to the<br />
concerns or feel<strong>in</strong>g states (of themselves and others) and then react<strong>in</strong>g<br />
to them. Guarded people focus on the po<strong>in</strong>ts or ideas <strong>in</strong> question.<br />
Guarded people like to know where a conversation is go<strong>in</strong>g. Idle,<br />
non-directed chitchat is not for them. If Open types stray from the<br />
subject, Guarded people fi nd a way to br<strong>in</strong>g them back on track. Th ey<br />
usually need clarity before they move on to the next topic. If you get<br />
off the subject, they’re likely to ask, “Can you sum that up for me?” or,<br />
“What is the key po<strong>in</strong>t you’re try<strong>in</strong>g to make?”<br />
Because of their diff erent priorities, Guarded types can perceive more<br />
Open ones as time wast<strong>in</strong>g or wishy-washy. And Open people may<br />
view these Guarded people as cold, unsympathetic, or self-<strong>in</strong>volved.<br />
As a result, misunderstand<strong>in</strong>gs can quickly grow out of proportion<br />
when we don’t discern and respond to these types of diff erences. You<br />
may still wonder which is better—Open or Guarded behavior. And<br />
aga<strong>in</strong>, the answer is, “It depends.” As with Directness and Indirectness,<br />
circumstances determ<strong>in</strong>e the appropriateness of any type of behavior.<br />
Our awareness of potential pitfalls for each personality pattern<br />
can save multitudes of problems for ourselves and others as well as for<br />
our workplace, social groups, and organizations.<br />
Whereas Open people may feel any attention is better than no attention<br />
at all, Guarded people tend to be more selective about whom they<br />
associate with. Th ey feel more comfortable reta<strong>in</strong><strong>in</strong>g fi rm control over<br />
their emotions.