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Psychology of sex - Total No. of Records in System :: 2032

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MARRIAGEprise and it seems to agree with my own experience. Tosome extent it lies <strong>in</strong> the relationship <strong>of</strong> the two <strong>sex</strong>es tomarriage. To a woman marriage means more than toman, because <strong>in</strong> the care <strong>of</strong> husband and child and householdit necessarily absorbs a larger part <strong>of</strong> her be<strong>in</strong>g, sothat if there is a sense <strong>of</strong> disappo<strong>in</strong>tment that disappo<strong>in</strong>tmentis more serious. A man is more detached from homeand family because his life is usuallyso much outside.Home occupies a smaller section <strong>of</strong> his field <strong>of</strong> activity;it constitutes a haven <strong>of</strong> rest. A woman, on the other hand,must <strong>of</strong>ten feel that marriage is her whole life, and deeperproblems are thus stirred with<strong>in</strong> her. This br<strong>in</strong>gs us toDick<strong>in</strong>son's significant observation that the ma<strong>in</strong> differencebetween the adjusted wives and the maladjustedwives is that the former are more objective, and lesstroubled by mental conflicts. They are, <strong>in</strong> other words,more like the average husbands.But the discontent with marriage which we so <strong>of</strong>tenf<strong>in</strong>d among wives, even though more or less below thesurface, has a real foundation. It is associated with thenew and larger claims on life which the women <strong>of</strong> recentgenerations have more and more taken, not content liketheir mothers to accept as natural and <strong>in</strong>evitable the predom<strong>in</strong>ance<strong>of</strong> men and their own place <strong>of</strong> subjection. Thereligious and social aspects <strong>of</strong> the world have changed forwomen without <strong>in</strong> any correspond<strong>in</strong>g degree chang<strong>in</strong>g formen, because the change has for women been <strong>in</strong> largemeasure socially recognized and legally registered. Thebut little. So that when atraditions <strong>of</strong> men have changedwoman enters marriage she isapt to become aware <strong>of</strong> adiscrepancy which tends to become a mental conflictwith<strong>in</strong> herself. There are many women old-fashionedromantically m<strong>in</strong>ded women brought up away from menas well as more modern girls who realize even dur<strong>in</strong>g thea

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