Psychology of sex - Total No. of Records in System :: 2032

PSYCHOLOGY OF SEXfor thehoneymoon the nature of man and of marriagefirst time and acquire a dissatisfaction which may neverbe entirely outgrown.There is, as I have indicated, a stilldeeper ground forthisdiscontent with marriage. The changes in the externalorder of marriage during recent times have too oftenleft out of sight the fundamental facts of the relationshipof marriage. They have concentrated attention on its moreexternal features and they have made itappear that happinessin marriage depends on an easy readjustment ofthe external order. Above all, they have tended to put outof sight the fact, much better realized in old days, thatsuch a relationship, penetrating so deeply into the spirit,can never be save for the most shallow-spirited personswithout difficulty and trouble. The old conception of theinevitable pains of marriage is out of date. But they remainin new shapes and are of the nature of the relationship.Divorce may be no cure at all, even when we admitthat there should be the greatest possible freedom fordivorce. We constantly see people who divorce but are noIt is not marriage that washappier in a second marriage.wrong; it was themselves that were wrong. Count Keyserling,in a subtle and penetrating analysis of the marriageproblem, describes marriage as "an interpolar tension";there is a unity constituted by two foci: the two are heldtogether by a tension "a tragic tension" he elsewherecalls it which cannot be abolished if the relationshipisto remain intact. Such a relationshipis a symbolof lifeitself, and, as in life generally, it is essential to its joy. Sothat no ascetic emphasis on pain or trouble for their ownsake ishere implied. As the poet-prophet Kahlil Gibranagain and again asserts, joy and sorrow are inseparable."Is not the cup that holds your wine the very pot that wasburned in the potter's oven?" Long before that was said[278]