Saamwoon voor die huwelik - AH Bogaards
Saamwoon voor die huwelik - AH Bogaards
Saamwoon voor die huwelik - AH Bogaards
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gee. En <strong>die</strong> Here self eis dat hier<strong>die</strong> liefde in <strong>huwelik</strong> tussen man en vrou moet<br />
wees (Ef. 5:25; Op. 2:4). Dit is trouens ‟n afspieëling van <strong>die</strong> liefde van Christus<br />
vir <strong>die</strong> bruidskerk en van sy bruidskerk se liefde vir Hom (Ef. 5:25; Op. 2:4).<br />
Al drie saam in <strong>die</strong> <strong>huwelik</strong><br />
In <strong>die</strong> <strong>huwelik</strong> behoort al drie vorms van liefde, naamlik eros, filia en agape<br />
teenwoordig te wees en as ‟n eenheid te funksioneer, hoewel elkeen ‟n eie<br />
beklemtoning het. Maar dan moet steeds in gedagte gehou word dat agape <strong>die</strong><br />
sterkste van <strong>die</strong> drie is en moet wees.<br />
De Oliveira (2001:32) vat dit soos volg saam: “While friendship love and<br />
romantic love are equally important in marriage, agape love is considered to be<br />
the true love. It is much more than emotions, it is much more than sexual<br />
expressions, more than companionships, more than caring friendship, it involves<br />
it all but is a self-offering love for the well-being and happiness of the loved one.<br />
It can also be said that this self-denying love is the basis for all the other kinds of<br />
love, because any spouse full of agape love will be a tender, committed,<br />
respectful, sharing, real companion, and will not deny his or her partner the<br />
duties of marriage. Such love is what Christ intends the spouses to have for<br />
each other, as a source of happy and blessed marriage.”<br />
In so „n liefde is daar volgens Louw (1983b:62-79) wedersydse begrip vir mekaar,<br />
wedersydse aanvaarding van mekaar, wedersydse respek vir mekaar en<br />
wedersydse vertroue vir mekaar.<br />
Die <strong>huwelik</strong> bied <strong>die</strong> hoogste openbaringsvorm van <strong>die</strong> liefde wat onder mense<br />
moontlik is. In geen menslike liefdesverhouding kom God se liefde vir <strong>die</strong> mens<br />
so duidelik tot openbaring en is dit so groot as in <strong>die</strong> egte Christelike <strong>huwelik</strong> nie<br />
(Delleman, 1968:6). Delleman (1968:11) druk <strong>die</strong> liefdesverhouding in <strong>die</strong><br />
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