Saamwoon voor die huwelik - AH Bogaards

trust, reliability, stability, scrupulousness, ingenuousness, authenticity, integrity,
and fidelity. To be fickle, capricious, unreliable, shifty, whimsical, disloyal,
rootless, perfidious is to be anything but trothful.”
In „n ander geskrif wys Olthuis (1995:566) soos volg op die groot waarde van trou
(“troth”) in die Christelike huwelik: “Keeping troth is counting on each other,
giving the utmost, sharing deeply from inside, sticking together through thick an
thin .... When the commitment is total, clear and unreserved partners are
encouraged freely and openly to share their inner struggles and fears as well as
their joys and triumphs... When partners hold fast to each other, an exhilirating
troth-spiral of „we-ness‟ can develop in which the partners have the room to be
themselves, honour their differences, face their problems openly and, in the
process, deepen their joining... Troth flourishes in a mutual relationship of
belonging in which partners, secure in their own identities, commit themselves to
sharing life together.”
Geen huwelik kan ooit „n gelukkige en geseënde huwelik wees as trou tussen
man en vrou en trou teenoor die gebod van God ontbreek nie. Maar ook wat die
huwelikstrou betref, moet „n mens goed verstaan dat trou teenoor mekaar nie die
einddoel van die huwelik is nie, maar „n noodsaaklike voorwaarde om van die
huwelik „n werklik Christelike huwelik te maak (vgl. De Oliveira, 2001:18).
Volgens De Bruyn (1982:197-199) is dit duidelik uit die Ou en Nuwe Testament
dat trou in die oë van die Here „n wesenselement van die huwelik is. Hy motiveer
dit deur te verwys na twee uitsprake in die Ou Testament wat hier van besondere
belang is, naamlik Hosea 2:19 en Maleagi 2:14.
Hosea 2:19
Volgens Hosea 2:19 het die Here aan Israel gesê: “En Ek sal My met jou verloof
in trou.”
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