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Bill
Yeah oh thank you. It's easy to feel
anxious isn't it like I should do something,
I should add something.
Judi
Yes I know, whereas I often feel that I
hear myself talking and then I shut up and
there's a silence and I think oh my God.
So it's hard to get it ..., it's hard not to
project our own anxieties into the group.
Bill
Yeah.
I was interested in Heidi coming in in her
shorts and ...
Judi
She's quite umm, and the stuff she said
about her holiday, “Yeah great time”, you
know something's slightly not connected
about her, she doesn't ... it's like anger or
something.
Bill
Well yeah, and I what I was trying to say
when I thought she was away for two
weeks and it ...
Judi
I interrupted you there but I just ...
Bill
Well I actually missed her, but I think she
experiences me as persecutory, “You can
arrest me”.
Judi
That's why I, yes, yes,
Bill
You rescued her!
Judi
Yes. Yes she does, I think she experiences
men as persecutory and I just didn't want, I
suppose perhaps I shouldn't have rescued
her, do you think I did the wrong thing?
Bill
Oh no, no no, I noticed that you did, in a
way it was probably ... between us it's like
Chapter Eight – A Consulting Break - Page 247
and the next. I wonder if we are going
through a process of re-alignment, having
cleared and expressed some considerable
tension between us, having faced an
anxiety together. (Here, I am focussing on
the dimensions of the heuristic,
connection, difference and bi-logical depth
(see Page 85). I’m suggesting that the
process between us has led to some
disconnection as a result of differences of
opinion and perspective, which is now
resolving. This resolution may be
responsible for the symmetrisation).
I think that Judi feels persecuted by
me.(Here I am using the plasticity of
person available if Matte-Blanco’s (1975,
1988) bi-logic is applied)
My three ‘no’s’ suggest that at least one if
not all should be a ‘yes’. Our eschewal of