Forbidden Words: Taboo and the Censoring of Language
Forbidden Words: Taboo and the Censoring of Language
Forbidden Words: Taboo and the Censoring of Language
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<strong>Taboo</strong>, naming <strong>and</strong> addressing 139<br />
In fact, we have a little problem. Recently my wife <strong>and</strong> I <strong>of</strong>fered <strong>the</strong> fiancé <strong>of</strong> our<br />
daughter to say ‘Du’ to him. He <strong>the</strong>n asked how he should address us. We explained he<br />
could address us just as he liked; we thought he would say ei<strong>the</strong>r ‘Mutter’ <strong>and</strong> ‘Vater’<br />
or ‘Mama’ <strong>and</strong> ‘Papa’. However, we are greatly surprised to see that <strong>the</strong> young man<br />
calls us now by our first names. Whilst our daughter thinks this is all right, modern <strong>and</strong><br />
colloquial, we ourselves find this world hostile <strong>and</strong> confounded. Being both about fifty<br />
years old, are we already hopelessly antiquated? (Adler 1978: 202)<br />
In Germany, du is used to deities <strong>and</strong> saints (<strong>and</strong> also <strong>the</strong> deceased person<br />
at a funeral); it is used to children <strong>and</strong> used by <strong>the</strong>m to peers up to <strong>the</strong>ir<br />
twenties. However, a child may expect strangers to use Sie from about fifteen;<br />
indeed, <strong>the</strong>re is a law in many Länder that requires teachers to use Sie to<br />
students in <strong>the</strong> final few years <strong>of</strong> secondary school. According to Raymond<br />
Hickey, if <strong>the</strong>y first meet on neutral ground (e.g. as next-door neighbours),<br />
speakers over thirty use Sie when <strong>the</strong>y first meet, <strong>and</strong> unless a suitable<br />
occasion arises to switch to du, continue to use Sie for ever. 33 However, <strong>the</strong><br />
choice <strong>of</strong> initial address form really depends on <strong>the</strong> character <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> speaker,<br />
<strong>the</strong> semiotics <strong>of</strong> dress <strong>and</strong> appearance <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> addressee, <strong>and</strong> <strong>the</strong> context <strong>of</strong><br />
encounter. 34 Some bosses resist accepting du in <strong>the</strong> belief that control will be<br />
lost if criticism or a reprim<strong>and</strong> is warranted; o<strong>the</strong>rs insist on du to create <strong>the</strong><br />
impression <strong>of</strong> equality. The move from Sie to du involves an <strong>of</strong>fer from <strong>the</strong><br />
more powerful member <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> dyad, <strong>and</strong> is rarely without ceremony. One<br />
initial move is to say something like Sie können mich doch Hans nennen ‘you<br />
can call me Hans’, where Hans is (an abbreviated) first name; but <strong>the</strong> use <strong>of</strong><br />
du doesn’t necessarily follow. Reverting from du to Sie is usually <strong>the</strong> result <strong>of</strong><br />
some irreparable rift. 35<br />
Returning to <strong>the</strong> use <strong>of</strong> naming <strong>and</strong> addressing with <strong>the</strong> consultative style in<br />
English: <strong>the</strong> speaker will employ consultative style to address or name using<br />
title _ surname for <strong>the</strong> task, e.g. Mr Smith, (a) where <strong>the</strong> speaker is superior in<br />
status to, but <strong>of</strong> friendly disposition towards, <strong>the</strong> hearer-or-named or (b)<br />
where <strong>the</strong> speaker <strong>and</strong> hearer-or-named are <strong>of</strong> similar social status but <strong>the</strong>re<br />
is considerable social distance between <strong>the</strong>m. If <strong>the</strong> speaker is superior in<br />
status to <strong>the</strong> hearer-or-named, s/he can choose ei<strong>the</strong>r to maintain <strong>the</strong> status<br />
difference or to be less formal <strong>and</strong> show solidarity by using in-group markers;<br />
<strong>the</strong>se demonstrate a concern to enhance <strong>the</strong> hearer-or-named’s positive face, 36<br />
by seeking to make <strong>the</strong> hearer-or-named feel good about <strong>the</strong>mselves. Where<br />
<strong>the</strong> speaker <strong>and</strong> <strong>the</strong> hearer-or-named are <strong>of</strong> similar social status <strong>and</strong> <strong>the</strong>re is<br />
little social distance between <strong>the</strong>m, <strong>the</strong> informal in-group language found in<br />
colloquial styles is <strong>the</strong> regular mark <strong>of</strong> solidarity. These styles are marked by<br />
contractions, ellipsis, diminutives, colloquialisms, <strong>and</strong> perhaps slang <strong>and</strong><br />
swearing. 37 Among adults, address forms in colloquial style include given<br />
name or nickname, perhaps with <strong>the</strong> surname; also American English<br />
bud(dy), Australian <strong>and</strong> sou<strong>the</strong>rn British English mate, nor<strong>the</strong>rn British