Mentoring Future Leaders
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<strong>Mentoring</strong> <strong>Future</strong> <strong>Leaders</strong><br />
© Learning Link International<strong> </strong><br />
March 2005<br />
Can Your Mentor Be Your Friend?<br />
Some mentoring relationships develop<br />
progressively into friendship. Once two people<br />
have connected at a deep emotional level, they<br />
tend to have a special bond that lasts beyond<br />
their official contract.<br />
Outsiders who are not familiar with the dynamics<br />
of the mentor-mentee relationships might frown<br />
upon it, especially if the relationship is between a<br />
male and female.<br />
If the relationship is friendship, both parties have to give and take from it<br />
without an expectation of a reward.<br />
Clutterbuck and Megginson conclude:<br />
Richard Field, a respondent in Clutterbuck’s study, is<br />
not ambivalent about the matter. For him “A mentor is<br />
a friend, a coach, a judge and an encourager. You<br />
have got to have enormous trust and a long-term<br />
relationship which can be created in moments. To<br />
do this you have to be prepared to be totally<br />
vulnerable – when I have given trust, I don’t think I<br />
have ever been let down.” (2000, p.163)<br />
“On the one hand there is a keeping of professional boundaries, on<br />
the other a modelling of single-minded commitment. Those of us who<br />
mentor are faced with a choice in this matter and, as in so much about<br />
this engaging subject, there are no easy right answers. The way<br />
forward is to do what you do to be your kind of mentor, with<br />
conscious awareness, and with the humility to check that it is working<br />
for the others involved.” (p.163)<br />
Module 3 - Building Trusting <strong> </strong><br />
Relationships<br />
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