DEVELOPMENTAL CRISIS IN EARLY ADULTHOOD: A ...
DEVELOPMENTAL CRISIS IN EARLY ADULTHOOD: A ...
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Pre-Crisis Commitments and Pre-Crisis Motives<br />
The pre-crisis predicaments in this sample are situations where a career and/or<br />
relationship has been undertaken for the wrong reason and has become dysfunctional.<br />
These problematic pre-crisis commitments are motivated by a similar pattern of<br />
“extrinsic” motives in all cases (Deci and Ryan, 1991). In some cases commitments<br />
are motivated by a need to conform to the demands of others and to cultural standards,<br />
and in some we find reports of obedience and compliance to spouses, parents or<br />
society. Conformity and compliance are both examples of what Ryan, Sheldon,<br />
Kasser and Deci (1996) refer to “externally regulated” motivations, in which the<br />
reason for action is not felt to be internal to the self, but rather belongs to others.<br />
These conformist or obedience motives can appear on the surface to be noble or<br />
agreeable. Rachel and Gemma both described living according to the external dictates<br />
of what a “nice girl” should be while living up to the expectations of spouse and<br />
parents. Vern, Violet and Leon described the sense of duty which led to a marriage or<br />
long-term relationship that they did not want, but was done out of consideration for<br />
their spouse or child. When such commitments are made in a relationship or in<br />
forming a marriage, the end-result is what Sternberg (1998) called “empty love” – a<br />
relationship which has commitment, but lacks intimacy and passion. Gemma<br />
described her “empty existence” in a loveless marriage and how she was “dying<br />
inside”.<br />
Alongside these socially compliant motives, we also find in the career-related<br />
clusters (career-woman crisis, all-consuming crisis, male career crisis) a pre-crisis set<br />
of motives to gain money, prestige, status and self-aggrandisement through career role<br />
and also through their relationship. These materialistic motives lead to commitments<br />
in lucrative but unfulfilling jobs. Materialistic and socially conformist motives can<br />
inter-relate, as some participants show both (e.g. Guy, Lynne). Both of these<br />
motivations; conformist/compliant and materialist are examples of “extrinsic<br />
motivation” (Deci, 1971), where action is carried out for later reward and for<br />
obligation rather than for ongoing satisfaction, enjoyment and fulfilment.<br />
Growing Crisis: Loss of Control and Passivity<br />
A sense of personal control is subtly undermined by conformist, compliant and<br />
materialist motives. In cases of conformity, goals and reasons for action are felt to<br />
belong to other person or persons who are being conformed to. Materialistic motives<br />
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