DEVELOPMENTAL CRISIS IN EARLY ADULTHOOD: A ...

“Dancing became absolutely phenomenal. In the January afterwards I went for a full weekend’s
workshop in Bristol, and that was absolutely…it just completely broke me down.”
What was it about dancing that helped “break you down”?
Any particular moments or particular experiences/events that represent this time of trying on
new ideas and exploring yourself?
POST CRISIS
Question 17 (if not already covered off)
How would someone at Parnell have described you?
How would your wife have described you at the time?
How would someone you work with now describe you?
How would your present partner describe you?
Which aspects of yourself have remained the same through this whole process?
Which aspects have remained the same?
p.10 “I think there were valuable lessons in the old Guy. And there are some foundations that are
still there.” What are those foundations?
Question 18: Anecdote – staring at mountains
“One example was in Seattle, when I went out there for a study tour. I got to Seattle, it was late at
night, and the rest of the group didn’t turn up until about two or three hours later. So I walked into
town, to the local mall to get some presents to take home, and as I walked out what I realised was the
Rocky mountains, and I just turned round and it was just an absolute sublime moment when I
became one with them, so I stood on this pavement probably for about twenty minutes being one with
mountains. And everyone was walking past me, looking at me and wondering what was going on,
and it was just the most magical experience on earth. And I know that six months earlier, I would
have gone, oh yeah mountains, and carried on walking.”
In what sense is that incident indicative of the transformation over the crisis?
Question 19
You refer to the time at Parnell as “my previous incarnation” (p.5), what do you mean by that?
Question 20
“When you become authentic, people gravitate to you automatically. They say, how do I get some
more of this. They may not like the answers but there is a real desire to get a life-work balance and
its not happening.”
What is becoming “authentic” all about?
Did you feel that over the crisis period in question, you became more “authentic” ?
Question 21
Page 10: “did it require a crisis, do you think?” It wouldn’t have happened otherwise. I was
so locked in to my mental picture of how life is and how it should be, I had to have the rug
pulled out from underneath me, there is no doubt about it. I would have had a crisis
eventually, it would have probably been a health crisis. If I was going to change, and if I was
going to survive, something fundamental had to happen. Now I know that we all have to go
through what we have to go through.”
What particular aspects of the crisis were instrumental in unlocking you from your old “mental
picture”? Was there a particular moment that you can remember breaking out?
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