Miftah-ul-Janna (Booklet for way to Paradise)

[It is stated as follows in Shir’at-ul-islam: “If your wife begins to
exhibit surly behaviour, you should blame yourself. You should
say to yourself, “She wouldn’t behave like that if I were good. If
your wife is a sâliha (pious) one, you should not take a second wife.
It is not permissible for a man short of rendering justice with
respect to the maintenance of his family to marry a second wife. If
he knows that he will be capable of rendering justice, then it is
permissible for him (to take a second wife). However, it is more
meritorious for him not to do so. When your wife leaves for places
permissible for her to go to, she must wear a headgear and cover
her body properly. It is harâm for a woman to go out with a smell
of perfume and/or with her ornaments exposed. A sâliha (pious)
woman is the most valuable of worldly blessings. To treat a Muslim
with mercy and tenderness yields more thawâb than does an act of
nâfila worship.” It is written as follows in Riyâd-un-nâsikhîn: The
eighteenth âyat of Nisâ Sûra purports: “Behave well and tenderly
towards your wives!” The following hadîth-i-sherîfs: “Yâ Abâ
Bakr! If a person talks smilingly and tenderly with his wife, he shall
be given as much thawâb as if he had manumitted a slave.” and
“Allah shall not have mercy on a woman who marries a fâsiq
man.” and “Let him who wants my shafâ’at not give his daughter
as a wife to as fâsiq man.” and “The best of people is one who is
good to people. The worst of people is one who harms [hurts]
people.” and “To unjustly hurt a Muslim is worse than
demolishing the Ka’ba seventy times.”
It is stated in Durr-ul-mukhtâr: “Once a Muslim man has
married a woman by making a sahîh (valid) (marriage contract
called) nikâh with her, (she becomes his wife and) it becomes farz
for him to provide her (means of subsistence called) nafaqa.
Nafaqa consists of food, clothing, and dwelling. He has to make his
wife live in a house which is either his own property or one that he
has rented. The wife may demand that none of her husband’s
relatives should be allowed into the house. The husband as well
may demand that none of his wife’s relatives should enter the
house. Both of them possess this right. The house should be in a
quarter where sâlih Muslims live. [The muazzin’s own voice should
be heard from the house (without having to use a loudspeaker,
since it is an act of bid’at to use it in Islamic practices).] The
husband cannot ban his wife from going out to visit her parents
once a week. They might as well come and visit their daughter
once a week. If one of them becomes ill and there is no one to look
after them, the wife should go and tend on her parent even if her
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